[val1990]

a girl ones pragnant and had abortion..would she not be wanted by any other guy??
would she not deserved any love from other guy??
jus because that girl had 1 step in her life wrong, does that mean she will always be that kinda of girl??

[applehearts]

No I dun think so la
if a guy really loves her,
he will not mind about her past de.

[jo.kent18]

Originally Posted by val1990

a girl ones pragnant and had abortion..would she not be wanted by any other guy??
would she not deserved any love from other guy??
jus because that girl had 1 step in her life wrong, does that mean she will always be that kinda of girl??

that is sad! if the person is still around .. She will find the right ones or the right ones will find her!!

she should be looking into the PRESENTS so.. those that does adore her can find her..
if she close her hearts.. how to find her lei??

if everyones always look at the past only .. then the life will always be looking the same as the ones in the past... look forwards & treasure what is happening now..
goods .. bad .. just remember DON'T QUIT as you are still alive & kicking

(still the pasts is to remind us of the mistakes, so that we can avoid or keep the good works going!!)

cheer up if the road is dark.. as the is always a light within each ones of us..

my 1cents comments..

[holyark]

some cases when even girls end up with having the child still can get married later on..

I find this aren't much of issue if her partner is willing to accept it..

and everyone will make mistakes in their life.. who doesn't?

[NORZISH]

if the gal has turn over a new leaf and realise that wad was done is wrong.
I think ppl would still accept her. (:

[zelcadence]

Originally Posted by applehearts

No I dun think so la
if a guy really loves her,
he will not mind about her past de.

Originally Posted by holyark

some cases when even girls end up with having the child still can get married later on..

I find this aren't much of issue if her partner is willing to accept it..

and everyone will make mistakes in their life.. who doesn't?

Originally Posted by NORZISH

if the gal has turn over a new leaf and realise that wad was done is wrong.
I think ppl would still accept her. (:

I would like to say the same thing as above... but... "Easy to say, hard to practice"

[Ican]

Leave the past behind and learn from the mistakes.At least, this is the best you/your friend can do. Before someone can love you, you must first love yourself. That is self-esteem.

[PECTOPAH]

depends...
if she learnt her lesson then its all gd
if not there will be another mistake anyway

[jp16]

I think guys no matter what still mind a bit lah. I had friend who go abortion recently onli. Quite chio one. Then b4 abortion, still got the thought to woo her or what. But after the abortion, dunno y, i dun feel like wooing her anymore.

[Lancelot]

Originally Posted by val1990

a girl ones pragnant and had abortion..would she not be wanted by any other guy??
would she not deserved any love from other guy??
jus because that girl had 1 step in her life wrong, does that mean she will always be that kinda of girl??

If nobody knows, nobody knows. People lie to each other all the time, even to the people they love, why should this be any different?

[friendshipz]

if someone really love you, it doesnt matter even if you go abortion for 2 times or more.

if you want to keep away this little guilt from your new lover and think this is best for both of you, then so be it, everyone have some dirty little secret that is best not to be reveal.

[nanaler]

Originally Posted by friendshipz

if someone really love you, it doesnt matter even if you go abortion for 2 times or more.

if you want to keep away this little guilt from your new lover and think this is best for both of you, then so be it, everyone have some dirty little secret that is best not to be reveal.

i agreed.

human makes mistake, learn from it and move on.

[xpeinx]

Originally Posted by val1990

a girl ones pragnant and had abortion..would she not be wanted by any other guy??
would she not deserved any love from other guy??
jus because that girl had 1 step in her life wrong, does that mean she will always be that kinda of girl??

are you that girl? O.o

[shypineapple]

humans makes mistake. as long he/she learn from the mistake. it's alright (:

[anje]

as u mentioned, it's one wrong step. she won't always be "that" kind of girl, unless she don't mind having abortions all the time when she has unplanned pregnancies. after a number of abortions, she'll also become barren.

i guess it also depends on the man. if he's able to accept her (past).

[Lethia]

Originally Posted by val1990

a girl ones pragnant and had abortion..would she not be wanted by any other guy??
would she not deserved any love from other guy??
jus because that girl had 1 step in her life wrong, does that mean she will always be that kinda of girl??

Well, this may be harsh from me... but I'll say what I feel.

But I personally feel she DOES deserved to be SEEN like that after all the things she done (without even thinking the consquences) & she doesnt want to take her responbility by aborting the baby (unless the baby has some health issue). Dont tell me that she abort the baby cuz she cant raise it becuz of finance problem or other problem. That's just an EXCUSE to 'get rid' of the baby. If she's been seen 'bad' by other ppl then she has to SWALLOW it & feel shame so that she will promised herself not to do this stupid shit again.

Why the heck she even done it in the 1st place without thinking anyway ? If she's matured enough then she should be able to accept her mistake & TAKE RESPONSIBILITY from it by not aborting the baby. Otherwise she's just a selfish & unresponsible pathetic person.

Its really up to her wether she want to stay 'this way' or want to be a new person. But if everyone treat her nicely like nothing happen after what she's done, when the heck she gonna ever learn ?

We wont learn from our mistakes if everyone around us treat us the same or nicely like nothing happened even after we did a bad mistake. What makes us wanna learn from our mistake is not our conciousness, it's becuz the feeling of being seen as a 'bad/criminal' or a 'punishment' then we'll be feeling 'regret', thus it will drive us to avoid this thing again.

Lastly, how to love this kind of girl when she doesnt even love herself & also the baby inside her ?. She may be still able to be loved, although I'm not sure how much a guy can love her after all this...

[~BomBxShell~]

hmmm..im sure some1 will accept the girl no matter whats her past..but , this kinda ppl very hard to find these days..
anyways , the girl must move on and leave the past behind..learn from the mistake..

[celong27]

Originally Posted by Lethia

Well, this may be harsh from me... but I'll say what I feel.

But I personally feel she DOES deserved to be SEEN like that after all the things she done (without even thinking the consquences) & she doesnt want to take her responbility by aborting the baby (unless the baby has some health issue). Dont tell me that she abort the baby cuz she cant raise it becuz of finance problem or other problem. That's just an EXCUSE to 'get rid' of the baby. If she's been seen 'bad' by other ppl then she has to SWALLOW it & feel shame so that she will promised herself not to do this stupid shit again.

Why the heck she even done it in the 1st place without thinking anyway ? If she's matured enough then she should be able to accept her mistake & TAKE RESPONSIBILITY from it by not aborting the baby. Otherwise she's just a selfish & unresponsible pathetic person.

Its really up to her wether she want to stay 'this way' or want to be a new person. But if everyone treat her nicely like nothing happen after what she's done, when the heck she gonna ever learn ?

We wont learn from our mistakes if everyone around us treat us the same or nicely like nothing happened even after we did a bad mistake. What makes us wanna learn from our mistake is not our conciousness, it's becuz the feeling of being seen as a 'bad/criminal' then we'll be feeling 'regret', thus it will drive us to avoid this thing again.

Lastly, how to love this kind of girl when she doesnt even love herself & also the baby inside her ?. She may be still able to be loved, although I'm not sure how much a guy can love her after all this...

Thats how life is,one wrong step and be ready to be comdenned by ppl.But none of us really knew whats going on in her mind at that time.None of us is her,so there are certain things not for us to judge.Human emotion is a complex thing to grasp and understand.I think we should not condemned her becoz her state of mind wasnt right at that time.This kind of thing can very easily befall many girls.Dunt say it wunt even happen to u,when the same situation happen,who can say we wunt be like the same as her.

The most important thing to do now is forget about the past and move on.It is her decision to not keep the baby and lets just respect her decision.Like i say,we are not her and there may be reasons not known to us.

[Lethia]

Originally Posted by celong27

Thats how life is,one wrong step and be ready to be comdenned by ppl.But none of us really knew whats going on in her mind at that time.None of us is her,so there are certain things not for us to judge.Human emotion is a complex thing to grasp and understand.I think we should not condemned her becoz her state of mind wasnt right at that time.This kind of thing can very easily befall many girls.Dunt say it wunt even happen to u,when the same situation happen,who can say we wunt be like the same as her.

The most important thing to do now is forget about the past and move on.It is her decision to not keep the baby and lets just respect her decision.Like i say,we are not her and there may be reasons not known to us.

How do you know her state of mind wasnt right at that time ? Do you mean like she was drunk & then having sex unconciously with her partner ?.

Well, unless she's drunk becuz of her partner (not that she make herself drunk) then it couldnt be helped. But then again, why she get herself into that kind of situation? she can avoid place like bars/pubs/etc to get drunk. She can even avoid drinking wine / other things that can lead to drunk.

If it was happened to me, trust me I wont give myself THAT easily cuz I love myself VERY VERY MUCH so I value my virginity super highly. And, if someone try to make me drunk.. I dont think that will ever happen to me cuz I dont go to pubs/clubs/bar, I dont drink wine or anything that lead to drunk & I dont hang out with clubbers or hang-out-lover ppl. So it's kinda impossible to get drunk for me.

However, if God wants me to get drunk, then I dont know what else to do cuz I always cautions on whatever I do. The only think I can do perharps finding the best way without hurting anyone haha.

Well, if she's my friend / someone i know, I definitely WONT respect her decision cuz she doesnt take her responsibility. If I respect her decision, it just gonna encourage her to do it again in the future if 'pregnancy accident' happened to her again.

[celong27]

Originally Posted by Lethia

How do you know her state of mind wasnt right at that time ? Do you mean like she was drunk & then having sex unconciously with her partner ?.

Well, unless she's drunk becuz of her partner (not that she make herself drunk) then it couldnt be helped. But then again, why she get herself into that kind of situation? she can avoid place like bars/pubs/etc to get drunk. She can even avoid drinking wine / other things that can lead to drunk.

If it was happened to me, trust me I wont give myself THAT easily cuz I love myself VERY VERY MUCH so I value my virginity super highly. And, if someone try to make me drunk.. I dont think that will ever happen to me cuz I dont go to pubs/clubs/bar, I dont drink wine or anything that lead to drunk & I dont hang out with clubbers or hang-out-lover ppl. So it's kinda impossible to get drunk for me.

However, if God wants me to get drunk, then I dont know what else to do cuz I always cautions on whatever I do. The only think I can do perharps finding the best way without hurting anyone haha.

Well, if she's my friend / someone i know, I definitely WONT respect her decision cuz she doesnt take her responsibility. If I respect her decision, it just gonna encourage her to do it again in the future if 'pregnancy accident' happened to her again.

I dunt know her state of mind at that time,i am not her like i say many times in my post.But lets just say that its your decision not to respect her dosent mean she should be left in the dark to fend for herself.Wherether she make the mistake again or not,is not up to us to decided.Should she make the mistake again,then it is her own decision to put pain and suffering to her until she finally wake up.What her friends should do now is to keep her on the right path and not let her make the same mistake again.No one should be condemned jsut becoz they make a mistake,even prisoner can take a second chance,If i were u,the first time i would do is to lead her on the right path,and let the rest follow.If she really doesnt deserve a second chance,and commit the same mistake again,there is really nothing we can do other than to watch from the side as we have done what we can already and hope for the best.Damage is done,baby is gone,can we turn back the time again??A true frenz will help to thier best ability and hope she over come this darkest day of her life instead of shouting and yelling why she must do this and that,thus making her feel even more inferior to others becoz she make a bad decision.There are many many cases like this girl mentioned in this thread.Some make it,some dunt and end thier life,but for those who actually make it out and start afresh,there must surely be ppl encouraging them behind.If everyone abandons everyone just becoz he/she thinks he/she does is immoral and should be shot,then surely this world is a very dark place to live in.Like i say,learn to respect others decision no matter how stupid or bad they are,coz u might never know the next one might be u and u justt need that someone to hold u up.

Btw,all this is my own personal opinion,dunt take it to heart.