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Old 22nd July 2009, 06:36 PM   #1 (permalink)
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2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

My hubby and me a e deciding as to whether to have our 2nd baby.
Our son is 3.5yrs old and we're both reaching our mid 30s soon. Apparently our biological clock is ticking away fast.
With the current unstable economy situation (which lead to unstable job), thus we're in dilemma as to have or not to have our 2nd Baby... ...

Another problem is the employing of maid... ...hai..... again whether to or not to employ.
Recently saw some clips about maids stepping on infant scares the hell out of us.....

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Old 22nd July 2009, 06:39 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Maybe you and your husband should sit down and discuss about the $$$, Time and Commitment.

It's a balance between them. Hiring a maid is not the long term idea, try to get a relatives or friends or even parents who can look after your children.

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Old 22nd July 2009, 06:39 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

erms. well if you are not financially strong to support i dont think is the right time to give birth.

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got ah gong and ah ma to take care of ur child ? if have and they are able to take care of ur child for u .. don have to hire maid liao.

maybe you can plan first b4 deciding on weather to have a second child anot. how much money can you spare on ur 2nd child and such.

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And also, believe your 1st child is going to study in kindergarten, that will add $$$ in your planning too.

PS: I'm not discourage you to have a 2nd baby.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Hi all, yes have "ah ma" to take care but getting old thus worry she cant make it lah...she might need to hire maid to help out....
$$$ wise, our combine income is about $9k plus per month.....but current situation nothing is comfirm for long....( in term of income0
Saving wise free cash of up to S$90k....
Do you think we're able to make it in term of $$$???

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

What about the time and love to care for the children?

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Everything also has black sheeps.

Don't let it affect your decision to have a baby.

If money is not an issue, time won't be because as a married couple, should'nt it be about family?


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Old 23rd July 2009, 10:18 AM   #9 (permalink)
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$9k plus per month can make it ba.

with 90k saving. you all dont own a car right? staying in normal HDB?

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if you guys are financially stable then just strike.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

have 2nd kid while you are young enough. work/money will come and go, but time keeps on moving.

if you wait, the gap between the 2 kids will be too large and you will have other issues such as schooling. as it is, the gap will already widen a bit much. actually, having a 2nd kid is not as expensive, since a lot of stuff can be handed down to the 2nd kid. dont feel sorry 2nd kid not as pampered in terms of material wealth, one has to adjust to economic situation. more impt is love and value 2nd kid same as 1st.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Originally Posted by iRolly View Post
$9k plus per month can make it ba.

with 90k saving. you all dont own a car right? staying in normal HDB?
Yes we do own a car, yes we stay in HDB...
But heard about many negative things about maids....

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

why not , depend on how much u spend , if u can be thrift , even if earn less then 9k also can .. time is running out , wait older then hard liao .. don't wait till so long then regret

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Well The foundation and trust of both of you as a couple is love... and that is all that will take to overcome obstacles... Money comes and goes...Economy and circumstances always change but the joy of having a child and the ability of having one does not always come. If both of you have the desire in your hearts to have another child than go ahead...

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and for maids wise, for both combining your salaries to be about 9 k, you probably have dealt with Public Relations somewhat. I would guess that both of you have enough outside world experience to have the right discernment in choosing a maid. Go with your guard feeling.


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for maid, very simple. dont if you dont trust. let wife stay home a few years. ya. less money. but less pain in the long run. give up the car if you gotta, unless need car for work.

after that, hire maid and put webcam up lor. the bigger kid will be able to watch out for the younger also by then.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

Maybe u all can try a second child.

Only child is very lonely. even though i'm not one.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

why would you want to engage a family helper?
i mean if possible, raise them your own would be better =)

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

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why would you want to engage a family helper?
i mean if possible, raise them your own would be better =)
IF finacially strong, who would wana engage helper....

our total family income only S$9k plus niah....after CPF contribution mere $7K plus close to $8k only....

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How maternal are you? Do you love children - did you always want a big family?, then have a 2nd child - yes finances will be hard especially in later years when you have to send them to Uni, extra curricular classes outside of school etc but it should be from the heart. I have only one child and I am happy with that decision as I am not very maternal (I do love my girl very much don't get me wrong) but for me, one was enough.

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Re: 2nd Baby - Yes Or No ???

yes...........
with only 1 child,your 1 and only child will be very bored..........(i'm 1 example)

if your kids age have some gap,they won't have a really close relationship...(from what i knew from my friend as she told me her relationship with her younger brother is not very good as they have a rather big age gap)

and as said by some others.
actually if 2 child age is around the same,can pass down the items........

if you have only 1 child,your child my go out more often than other child of the same age as your child will be very bored(through i'm not the type who keep going out).

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