Act out of obligation?

**wangzi<3** · 03-10-2009, 10:47 AM

Let's say you have a girl who confessed to you that she really like you.
And she requested that the both of you spend more time together, like go out etc.

Will you agree just because she confessed to you and you feel obliged to return her feelings.
Or will you reject?

Cos there is this person who agreed and I am not sure if it is out of obligations or he does have some feelings for me ...

NotMyStyl3 · 03-10-2009, 01:27 PM

Seriously there is no definitely answer as it differs for every guy
For me, i will agree if i am interested in the girl, if not i will tell her straight. Going out with her would only make her get the wrong idea, and eventually hurt her more

On the other hand, i also has some friends who would go due to obligations and not to disappoint the girl. Well seems like they find saying NO to a girl quite difficult.

But for your case, since he has already agreed to going out with you, prolly that means he is willing to give you and him a chance to get to get to know each other better. Well you can also check his attitude to you whn he goes out with you. If his attitude is cool, well then you should get the hint. If he is damn passionate and keep chatting with you, the feeling is mutual.

**FBI** · 03-10-2009, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by wangzi<3

Let's say you have a girl who confessed to you that she really like you.
And she requested that the both of you spend more time together, like go out etc.

Will you agree just because she confessed to you and you feel obliged to return her feelings.
Or will you reject?

Cos there is this person who agreed and I am not sure if it is out of obligations or he does have some feelings for me ...

i'm sure he does have feelings for you =)

**SiRNiven** · 03-10-2009, 01:34 PM

for me No...
i muz noe the person well b4 i even start a relationship..
but u muz whether the person is lookin for wife/husband type or gf/bf type...
for me i am the latter lorhx... coz i will put in alot of feelings and trust into a relationship de...

i gt eye candy this gal(J) b4... defintely nt my future wife type... then one day i was invited to a "girls table" to chat... suddenly they say everyone say who u lyk... everyone said then until J she dun dare say... all the while i gt the feeling alr larhx... coz anyway u noe if a gal lyks a guy(my feelings larhx)... her friends will prolly noe abt it and everytime u pass them "something" will happen de... hahaha... so yeah... then when her friends help her say this "yan zai tian bian...jing zai yan qian"... everyone laughed... i was lyk... budden it din materialized... coz i nv agree or wat... although we still gt go out and play... at that time i was realli stunned at situation when they are trying to pull us 2 together.. i juz keep smiling and change the topic lorhx...

**wangzi<3** · 03-10-2009, 01:55 PM

thanks for all the replies

so generally, he has some sort of feelings for me going on eh?
haha
i'm glad to hear that

**finaldust** · 03-10-2009, 02:01 PM

if gals i dont even like just straight away turn down better? if a bit maybe can go tgt know each other more before deciding bah

guess he might has some feelings for u bah

**FBI** · 03-10-2009, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by wangzi<3

thanks for all the replies

so generally, he has some sort of feelings for me going on eh?
haha
i'm glad to hear that

Yes u might have chance.. jus keep things positive that will do.

Best of luck! =)

**poopy** · 05-10-2009, 10:31 AM

Wangzi.
It's a opportunity for both of u to know each other better

grab the chance

he's is interested that's why he agreed!

**wangzi<3** · 05-10-2009, 05:31 PM

thanks all for the supportive reply

but things are not going well again...
very recently, he has a problem which he don't want to share with me
i feel that i don't matter enough to him for him to share
and ... sometimes he don't reply me online
if you like someone, you will always reply her right?

**siaoginazakum** · 05-10-2009, 06:25 PM

awesome seh , he sure likes u!donworry

**Soundaholic** · 05-10-2009, 07:06 PM

Woah this is difficult...i think it's diferent for every guy. You should look at how he answers it, like did he seem uneasy, or all-smiley, or normal, or just plainly expressionless

**PECTOPAH** · 05-10-2009, 07:09 PM

hope for the best, prepare for the worst

**poopy** · 05-10-2009, 08:34 PM

Wangzi.
Don't be too sad okay!

You just give him sometimes

when he think its the right time, he will tell u.
Jus make him feel that u will be there for him ^_^

**Syaoran** · 05-10-2009, 11:05 PM

i don't really know..never got that kind before..but if i like the girl..i would go out with her =)

**Sephiroth89** · 05-10-2009, 11:18 PM

Just dun care. Just go out.

If really out of obligation, time will make him show his impatience.

I cant pinpoint his vile intentions now, but guys, you know, its pretty obvious.

Just know where to stop can le.

**Miyamoto84** · 06-10-2009, 09:11 AM

when a guy doesnt wan to tell u his problems, it can be due to some reasons.

like for me, i m quite close to a ger whom liked me but she always says "u always so secretive n dun tell me wat u thinking". i admitted that totally cause i feel that everyone have their own problems to handle so i wont wan to give them more burden, i rather i m the 1 who hold onto other's burden n not the other way round.

**Senator1** · 06-10-2009, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wangzi<3

Let's say you have a girl who confessed to you that she really like you.
And she requested that the both of you spend more time together, like go out etc.

Will you agree just because she confessed to you and you feel obliged to return her feelings.
Or will you reject?

Cos there is this person who agreed and I am not sure if it is out of obligations or he does have some feelings for me ...

Should be a gentleman and obliged to return her feelings

**Lake_paint** · 06-10-2009, 09:26 AM

Cant be sure if he likes you too, but one thing for sure is that he is comfortable to go out with you.

If you like him, what you should do now is to think of how to attract him, the right way..

vios21 · 06-10-2009, 10:02 AM

Please dun do things that you feel obligated as it'll only cause mroe harm in the end when things don't work out and dun take her on a run for nothing.

**sweetlemon** · 06-10-2009, 06:30 PM

hmmm.. from what i feel ( at least thats how i do things lah ) , the refusal to share secrets one is no big issue. Some people just do not like to talk about stuff they deem as private. The more u try to ask the more irritated they ( at least I do ) get. So once u encounter a flat no just accept it unless a really good opportunity to ask comes up.

I do agree that if a guy likes you, he'll be very quick to respond to you if he is able to. However do not take this point literally since you may be catching him at a busy time.

If you keep getting ' daoed ' by him, what i suggest is to stop initiating conversations with him, ( at least reduce the frequency rate to perhaps once every 3-4 days ) and to see if he does initiate conversations with you instead. That would be a more telling indicator on whether he's interested to talk to you or not since he already knows your feelings.

What i infer is that he could be interested in you, but this interest is not a solid one like yours. He could be turned off is he finds you too 'sticky' and u would have to learn how to avoid that