[h3llmag3]

hi all,

So my story starts from when girl A and I starts the relationship in Dec last year and ended in june. During our relationship, she has a quarrel with one of her friends, oso a friend of mine, called B, B is a girl as well.

as above, A wanted me to keep away from B. But well B is my classmates so no matter i still have to meet her since she is one of best friends.And also B will always seek for my help in schoolwork.Being the helpful guy i am, i will always be there to help.

btw she was the one who initiated the breakup

So after the break up, more things happened between me and Girl A again leading to the problems even as friend which make me break all contacts with her

well firstly, after the break up for 2 days, she called me "crying" and wanted a patch and scold her but few days later, she started saying i am wrong once again.

there was oso other times that she wanted to patch again but few hrs later she posted something on her blog and fb, saying my shortcoming once again

there was also times i cant stand her nonsensical talk which no-one will understand
has oso occurs during our relationship which somehow i can laugh it off but it seem my hatred has built up that i dun find it funny

and now she started to write in her blog to reply to what i wrote in my blog which i wrote my own negative feelings about life.

the above was the last straw, so i have decided to delete girl A off fb,msn and friendster to break all contacts with her coz i really beginning not able to stand her

but she called me a betrayer and hate me as written on her blog and I assumed that girl A will assumed that girl B makes me do it

am i wrong to delete her off everything?

P.S. I have left out the reason for the breaking, but if any details needed, pls say so

[Asentua]

If you feel constricted by her actions, it is the healthy thing to do.

You can speculate what she would do, but do remember that they would only be speculations.
And speculations are not necessarily true.
However, since girl B is one of your best friend, you have to be ready to defend her of girl A's allegations if they do come about.

On a side note, avoiding an issue does not equate to having it resolved.
Breaking contact on your side, does not necessarily mean she would do the same on hers.
Even worse, you may find out about the things she would say or do(good or bad) through others, or worse, without you ever knowing it.

At least, take a time off from being in contact with her.
You sound like you need that break.

[Lake_paint]

You know, loving a person will sometimes cause a person to say something that he/she don't really mean it. Im sure both of you are guilty of that.

In the first place, the relationship might not have been handled properly, as well as the breakup.
She said nasty things to you because she still cares alot about you, but she didnt realise that what she's doing was actually turning you off to the extend of shutting her out.
That explains why she calls for a patch one minute, and then say nasty things the other.

There's nothing wrong or right regarding your decision.
It's just a matter of whether you still treasure your relationship with her, whether as a partner or friend.

[h3llmag3]

To Asentua

Not to worry, Girl B and Girl A has already break contact 3 months before my break up
i actually pick up what she has done to avoid her from writing any longer completely. Coz Girl A has also said a lot of nasty things about girl B. Until girl B starts ignoring her, girls A only stops after a while

To Lake_paint

Well, i have thought about it after the break up, i think i am just not ready, this relationship is just a rush and i dun think there was any love or some sort of.
Its just i enjoyed her company before as i can easily tell her anything and she listen and give advice.
Everything went well, there was no quarrel until the day of break up as she suddenly burst up all my shortcoming.(mood swing?). Thats is when everything begin to change and we quarrel like everyday -_-

Notes: Girl A and Girl B has known for about 8 yrs since sec sch while me only knows girl b for 4 yrs ( 1yr in sec 1, 3 yrs in poly) and girl A for 1 yr, i 21 now in poly and girl b happens to be same grp as me

From girl B points of view, the reason girl A was so hated back in the sec sch days was because of her weirdness. Most of her classmates said that as well. At first i chose not to listen to those but now i couldnt just brush it off as not true anymore as i myself has finally experienced it

Thanks for replying, i just wanted to know if i am so mean when i deleted her everything
took me a while just to do it.

[Squirrel<3Nuts]

If your ex have a close male fren, i think you will feel uncomfortable too. Try to put yourself in her shoes. She is probably jealous of B, very jealous. Even if you assure her that there is nothing between you & B, (if you did assure her) it's difficult for her to accept i guess.

Maybe she thought suggesting breaking up with you might cause you to realise that this is serious, to choose either her or B. But then again, you probably shrug it off & agree to the break up instead of worrying, comforting her & plea her not to break up. Thus the crying & drama after the 2 days of single life. She is lost. Helpless turns to anger & she start to bitch you in her blog & fb.

She is now probably going crazy after you deleted her from your accounts. She probably thinks B girl is more important than her in your eyes, naturally leading to her accusing that B is the one who ask you to do all the stuffs.

Oh well, take care. What done is done.

[h3llmag3]

To squirrel
Err well maybe u were right about her being jealous

but when she tells me break up, it was some other reasons regarding my own shortcoming and not me being with girl B. I didnt just shrug.it off, i tried ways asking her for patch over and over again in different time interval, allows her cool down. But maybe i did not done enuff to get her back. when i asked it always seem there is a chance to patch

but den again the same things once again happened, she will say patch, the next moment dun patch.

thats why i say i am not ready to give up my freedom, she was just overly control over my routine

hmm, do u need more details? i wanted to say more but to avoid trouble

[h3llmag3]

EDit: Sorry Double post due to lag