Broke Up after long-term relationship?

**JoeyMusixell** · 09-08-2009, 11:22 AM

Just wondering, did anyone broke up with their partners after being together for many years already? why broke up? I mean I thought usually people tend to get used to each other already after so many years. I have friends who have broke up after many years, and I just simply dun understand the reason why.

**blackmoonie** · 09-08-2009, 11:33 AM

got sick of each other? realised only then tat both can't stand the bad habits of the other?

i'm nt sure but i also wan2 know

**sky99** · 09-08-2009, 11:36 AM

Maybe they meet someone new ?

**JoeyMusixell** · 09-08-2009, 11:37 AM

but hor, if they meet someone new. I mean the long-term relationship with that someone would probably have win any other random girls that come in what? base on memories and stuffs.

Stuoid_Panda · 09-08-2009, 11:38 AM

1) cause of 3rd party
2) the love feeling is gone
3) realise not suitable for each other
4) parents object the relationship

there more reason but dis the only 1 i remember

no 4 is for me...her parents dont like for some strange reasons.....also she a mummy girl so ..
try many years to be good to the mum ..but in the end i giv up

ZhouXingXing · 09-08-2009, 11:40 AM

both grow bored of each other cos they have no new aims or goal to achieve together anymore.. Everything become stagnant, no more love sparks at all and both dun bother to keep it alive too

**JoeyMusixell** · 09-08-2009, 11:42 AM

I dun encourage people to give up in a relationship. I mean if you truly love someone. I'm sure you can make it work. And if a love feeling is gone, there particularly there isn't love from the very start. 3rd party is just a test on your temptation, whether you can resist it or not.

**sky99** · 09-08-2009, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by JoeyMusixell

but hor, if they meet someone new. I mean the long-term relationship with that someone would probably have win any other random girls that come in what? base on memories and stuffs.

Maybe they tired of each other ?

den keep quarreling.

den a new guy/girl came in and console them.

**Onii-chan** · 09-08-2009, 01:49 PM

Life's not that simple as a 1+1=2 equation. Many variables come in, people change.

**Wooden_hall** · 09-08-2009, 04:39 PM

People change according to time and many other factors. Its too much until it cant be summarise up with words..

**HIPPO93** · 09-08-2009, 04:43 PM

accumulation of problems unsolved

means that both parties always brush off the problem because they are scared that they argue to a point that one of them will ask for break up.

**TUP** · 10-08-2009, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by JoeyMusixell

Just wondering, did anyone broke up with their partners after being together for many years already? why broke up? I mean I thought usually people tend to get used to each other already after so many years. I have friends who have broke up after many years, and I just simply dun understand the reason why.

It could be because both drift apart due to different directions in life. Goals can shift over time & change with age. So if the parties involved don't want the same things anymore, it can lead to discontentment.

The Ultimate Perfection has spoken.

**freezer_w** · 10-08-2009, 01:39 AM

its simple for 2 persons to get together, the reason is only 1, cos 'i love u'...

but when 2 persons decided to break up, there can be thousands or millions of reasons and excuses... since its already through, why bother about it? it doesn't serves any meaning anymore...

freezer_w added 1 Minutes and 10 Seconds later...

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Originally Posted by TUP

It could be because both drift apart due to different directions in life. Goals can shift over time & change with age. So if the parties involved don't want the same things anymore, it can lead to discontentment.

The Ultimate Perfection has spoken.

drifting apart isn't the reason, its an excuses people wanna make up.

the truth is, they decided not to love each other.

**bigdeal** · 11-08-2009, 05:29 PM

hmm, is 4yr+ consider long?
mine was,
she met someone new,
claims that we lacked communications,
i didnt understand her (wtf?)

i think she just got bored of me. seriously

kokojun · 12-08-2009, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Stuoid_Panda

1) cause of 3rd party
2) the love feeling is gone
3) realise not suitable for each other
4) parents object the relationship

there more reason but dis the only 1 i remember

no 4 is for me...her parents dont like for some strange reasons.....also she a mummy girl so ..
try many years to be good to the mum ..but in the end i giv up

hmm. how old are both of you?
eventually one day her parents will accept de i think.. its a matter of time only.

**10degree** · 12-08-2009, 12:51 AM

Like I said before... All of us are different..

To be together, it is the compromises that we have made to make the impossible possible. If one party feels like he/she is sacrificing or giving in most of the time, naturally the thought of breaking up will starts to take charge in their mind. Whenever something bad happens, they will have the thought of moving on.... and when someone happen to pass by their life, they will just leave the current r/s.

Life is just weird at times. You can be together for 10 years and broke off in the end; you can also decide to get married just after 1 month being together! To top it up, love is not measurable in terms of duration.... it doesn't always mean the longer the better. Sometimes the longer the r/s is, the more they take for granted and love becomes used to it....used to being together... In this scenario, you can survive without each other, because your love for each other has ceased..

**Bluelite1986** · 12-08-2009, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by 10degree

Like I said before... All of us are different..

To be together, it is the compromises that we have made to make the impossible possible. If one party feels like he/she is sacrificing or giving in most of the time, naturally the thought of breaking up will starts to take charge in their mind. Whenever something bad happens, they will have the thought of moving on.... and when someone happen to pass by their life, they will just leave the current r/s.

Life is just weird at times. You can be together for 10 years and broke off in the end; you can also decide to get married just after 1 month being together! To top it up, love is not measurable in terms of duration.... it doesn't always mean the longer the better. Sometimes the longer the r/s is, the more they take for granted and love becomes used to it....used to being together... In this scenario, you can survive without each other, because your love for each other has ceased..

This is the best answer i've seen here so far...

I agree totally and I just wanna add on that there's no such thing as "the perfect person" for you..

No two ppl are perfect for one another...sad but true...

Its only after getting into the r'ship that you will see that both of u would have to compromise a little here and there...and depending on how much u all communicate or talk to each other about your feelings.. things will definitely improve.. as long as both sides doesnt give up~

For those who feel that your partner is perfect for u already..think again..even if its perfect now..it wouldnt be in future.. It can range from "putting toothbrush in the cup or out" to sillier things like "i like channel 5 better"

So just wanna advise all couples out there to really not give up your partner..it wasnt easy getting together..so must cherish..

And even if u give up now..rmb that the next one will be as imperfect as the one u just gave up... and many times worse

**jewlreya** · 12-08-2009, 01:06 AM

I know a friend of mine broke up with her ex-bf after 6 years cos she couldn't stand his bad habits, it's like a cycle, he said he would change but eventually 2-3 days later he will go back to the old self, so they kept compromising each other till one day, one of them just snapped and decided to call off the relationship.

**10degree** · 12-08-2009, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by jewlreya

I know a friend of mine broke up with her ex-bf after 6 years cos she couldn't stand his bad habits, it's like a cycle, he said he would change but eventually 2-3 days later he will go back to the old self, so they kept compromising each other till one day, one of them just snapped and decided to call off the relationship.

I am so sorry to hear that your friend has this experience. But to me this is testing their tolerance level, not compromising.... Sigh.....life is always difficult for us.

FlattenedCake · 12-08-2009, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by JoeyMusixell

Just wondering, did anyone broke up with their partners after being together for many years already? why broke up? I mean I thought usually people tend to get used to each other already after so many years. I have friends who have broke up after many years, and I just simply dun understand the reason why.

as underlined, they too used and sian of each other lor.

i dun hav any experience on that so cant really comment

cos i oso dun get it sometimes haha!