Do I have a chance?

**Fatalc** · 15-09-2009, 12:46 PM

There is this girl I like whom I have confessed to.
She said she cannot accept me now cos she is not prepared

Old thread: http://www.sgclub.com/singapore/shou...ve_197045.html

There was another time I told her the three words "I love you", she said she doesn't mind but she hope that our relationship can remain as normal

We are still good friends anyway and both of us went out together for a couple of times. The strange thing is that she told me not to tell the rest of our friends about us going out

I am really confused about this. Do I still stand a chance to be her boyfriend?
Any details you people need please ask. I didn't type the details cos my mind is so clouded now. I am not sure what to type..

**Peuan Sanit** · 15-09-2009, 12:51 PM

The only person that can answer your question is her. What the rest of us give you is just pure specuations.

Best is that you talk to her and ask her.

**mizuki_chin** · 15-09-2009, 01:52 PM

just ask her yourself...to my point of view...she don wan to let her friend know she is going out with mmaybe is she don wan rumor to spead or she is alone no one to accompany

**Fatalc** · 15-09-2009, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Peuan Sanit

The only person that can answer your question is her. What the rest of us give you is just pure specuations.

Best is that you talk to her and ask her.

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Originally Posted by mizuki_chin

just ask her yourself...to my point of view...she don wan to let her friend know she is going out with mmaybe is she don wan rumor to spead or she is alone no one to accompany

I just recently confessed so I dun want to ask again. I dun wanna scare her away...

**Peuan Sanit** · 15-09-2009, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Fatalc

I just recently confessed so I dun want to ask again. I dun wanna scare her away...

If her answer is No then respect decisions. If she said she can't accept you now, its a gentle way of telling you she is not interested.

**Lex.limhwee** · 15-09-2009, 02:17 PM

In previous thread, you said that 'She recently asked me if I still like her or not
A lot of things happened between us these few days and I think our relationship is improving'
And now you're confusing because she doesn't want other people to know about the relationship between you and her?

I think girls doesn't like other to know about them going out with guys alone as they don't want any rumours spreading around her ..
You can choose to think that shes probably indirectly reject you or shes really not ready to get into a relationship ..
No point rushing her for an answer

**Fatalc** · 15-09-2009, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Lex.limhwee

In previous thread, you said that 'She recently asked me if I still like her or not
A lot of things happened between us these few days and I think our relationship is improving'
And now you're confusing because she doesn't want other people to know about the relationship between you and her?

I think girls doesn't like other to know about them going out with guys alone as they don't want any rumours spreading around her ..
You can choose to think that shes probably indirectly reject you or shes really not ready to get into a relationship ..
No point rushing her for an answer

Our relationship is improving as in we are getting closer as friends.

**Squirrel<3Nuts** · 15-09-2009, 02:38 PM

Are there any guys chasing her other than you? Is she putting you on hold & waiting for 'better' people to come? Or is she attach & you don't know? Or she is just not interested but likes to feel the attention.

Or maybe.. she is just not ready. *shrugs*

**Fatalc** · 15-09-2009, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Squirrel<3Nuts

Are there any guys chasing her other than you? Is she putting you on hold & waiting for 'better' people to come? Or is she attach & you don't know? Or she is just not interested but likes to feel the attention.

Or maybe.. she is just not ready. *shrugs*

She is single right now. Confirmed. I am not sure if there are other guys chasing her..

**Lex.limhwee** · 15-09-2009, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Fatalc

Our relationship is improving as in we are getting closer as friends.

Alright .. Anyway, where are all the girls?!
Currently only guys are replying manz

**caroline3302003** · 15-09-2009, 08:56 PM

are you sure that she is single?.

**JetGrey** · 15-09-2009, 11:29 PM

Just continue chatting and going out with her.. Like what I did, but not too often. Have some space between you two.. That's what I did when I got the same reply.

**sky99** · 15-09-2009, 11:32 PM

Did you just got friend-zoned?

**Fatalc** · 16-09-2009, 08:21 PM

Yeah. 100% guarantee plus chop she is single...

Oks. I chatted with her yesterday and the topic somehow manage to change to this

She said she just got single not long so want enjoy first

and.. she said something which I think means "I have no feelings for you now. Gimme time to see if I like you"

**JetGrey** · 16-09-2009, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by sky99

Did you just got friend-zoned?

Not necessarily.. Sometimes the girl really just needs time.

**Lex.limhwee** · 16-09-2009, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Fatalc

Yeah. 100% guarantee plus chop she is single...

Oks. I chatted with her yesterday and the topic somehow manage to change to this

She said she just got single not long so want enjoy first

and.. she said something which I think means "I have no feelings for you now. Gimme time to see if I like you"

Respect her decision then, naturally attract her ..

By showing your positive qualities to her

**Junde_jd** · 21-09-2009, 10:28 PM

i think i had somehow the same problem wif you... maybe i'm in worst shit... my situation was me in a group of 8 including me... i like one f the girls, but one of my best fren seem to be interested in her. he knew i was courting her... but.... idk... maybe i'm too sensitive? i confessed ot her, face to face , she told me lets be frens... BUT she somehow i felt she is hint-ing me sometimes? like i can feel her jealousy? any explaination?

kokojun · 24-09-2009, 03:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Junde_jd

i think i had somehow the same problem wif you... maybe i'm in worst shit... my situation was me in a group of 8 including me... i like one f the girls, but one of my best fren seem to be interested in her. he knew i was courting her... but.... idk... maybe i'm too sensitive? i confessed ot her, face to face , she told me lets be frens... BUT she somehow i felt she is hint-ing me sometimes? like i can feel her jealousy? any explaination?

dont think so much abt this. she doesnt want you to be hurt so rather stay as friends..
what is she jealous abt?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fatalc

There is this girl I like whom I have confessed to.
She said she cannot accept me now cos she is not prepared

Old thread: http://www.sgclub.com/singapore/shou...ve_197045.html

There was another time I told her the three words "I love you", she said she doesn't mind but she hope that our relationship can remain as normal

We are still good friends anyway and both of us went out together for a couple of times. The strange thing is that she told me not to tell the rest of our friends about us going out

I am really confused about this. Do I still stand a chance to be her boyfriend?
Any details you people need please ask. I didn't type the details cos my mind is so clouded now. I am not sure what to type..

she wants things to be kept private first maybe? or she thinks its no big deal going out with her so dont have to let other friends know. you still stand a chance so dont worry. as long as she is willing to go out with you, you have a chance. Give her time to accept you.
It doesnt happen overnight. and when a girl says give her time, she really needs it.