A Gal's Friendship Problem!

**quency** · 26-03-2012, 01:25 PM

Its about my sec friend and me.Every time i call her just to chat,she's not interested in the conversation at all.She always thinks that i am plotting something and talks like a police officer in interrogation.

Eg.1
Me:want watch the movie hunger games
Her:WHY! nothing to do ar or no ppl want watch with u
Me:silence.....no...i just ask only
Eg.2
Eating with her..
Me: referring to food..'very hot'
15 min later she finish 1st
Me: ok i eat faster
Her:I KNOW!! you hinting just now what..(when i just made a simple comment)

Now that we separate (she go private school,i go poly),it get worse.She don't even bother to talk when i call her only monosymbolic words and most of the time is me who call her.

1)Should i salvage this 5 years friendship or should i let it drift apart.?

2)Why is she always thinking that i am hinting her,when i am just making a simple comment?
3)why is she like that? Is it because i gotta zhang da (grow up),cause all sec friendship will go this way???

**melvin85** · 26-03-2012, 01:28 PM

Jt say bye to her la.she can be the hi and bye fren

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**Priceless** · 26-03-2012, 01:30 PM

She not interested in becoming your friend.
She looked like she get forced to be friend with you.

**themightyblue** · 26-03-2012, 01:31 PM

Sounds like she's very uptight. Try to ease the tension?

Or did you do something in the past that made her respond to you this way?

**roseversailles** · 26-03-2012, 01:33 PM

Such a friend like her doesn't deserve a good friendship with you! Apparently you are putting in a lot of effort in trying to make things work, but she gives quite an obvious answer that she does not seem interested in it. So it is not your fault, and sometimes you can't force relationships to work as it takes two hands to clap. Just forget about her and make other friends. I bet you can find a better friend than her. Just stay yourself and I'm sure you will find that good friend soon

**quency** · 26-03-2012, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by themightyblue

Sounds like she's very uptight. Try to ease the tension?

Or did you do something in the past that made her respond to you this way?

no leh last time in sec not like that de.Only after the grad school, everybody work then get 'O' result then downhill le.i also thought maybe she got Bf le thats why like that.so i ask another close friend whether she got le but no leh......

**themightyblue** · 26-03-2012, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by quency

no leh last time in sec not like that de.Only after the grad school, everybody work then get 'O' result then downhill le.i also thought maybe she got Bf le thats why like that.so i ask another close friend whether she got le but no leh......

Perhaps she wants to move on. Maybe you should too. A hi-bye friend wouldn't hurt though.

**quency** · 26-03-2012, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by themightyblue

Perhaps she wants to move on. Maybe you should too. A hi-bye friend wouldn't hurt though.

Hmm i suppose i should.....-_- But the 5 years just like that.......

**orange123** · 26-03-2012, 02:14 PM

give her some time, dun contact her now

**Astonishment** · 26-03-2012, 02:34 PM

Move on. Hate this kind of person

**christmas_** · 26-03-2012, 02:57 PM

I am surprised that you actually tolerate her for the past 5 years.

She doesn't cherish this friendship at all. Just sever all ties with her will do. No point holding onto such friendships.

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Originally Posted by quency

Hmm i suppose i should.....-_- But the 5 years just like that.......

A friendship of decades can also be destroyed for reasons like money issues etc.

**janice** · 26-03-2012, 03:06 PM

If she behave after graduate from sec sch I wonder is she feeling inferior as you went to Poly while she go private school so got this kind of behaviour. If not maybe she know new friends in her school so she dun wish to be friends with you. Btw if she continue to be like that no point being friends with her anymore.

**quency** · 26-03-2012, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by janice

If she behave after graduate from sec sch I wonder is she feeling inferior as you went to Poly while she go private school so got this kind of behaviour.

i haven thought about that,now that i think about maybe.....i recall her saying ' how can that be'when she saw i got 14 and she got 21.

**pobb** · 26-03-2012, 04:16 PM

she jealous of your better results?

when it comes to friendship, no need to force de. it needs 2 hands to clap. must be both of you want this to work, then it will work. otherwise, it is one-sided. very xin ku (tiring) de

**themightyblue** · 26-03-2012, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by pobb

she jealous of your better results?

when it comes to friendship, no need to force de. it needs 2 hands to clap. must be both of you want this to work, then it will work. otherwise, it is one-sided. very xin ku (tiring) de

Isn't everyone getting tired of abusing this term?

**pobb** · 26-03-2012, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by themightyblue

Isn't everyone getting tired of abusing this term?

is it?

it's ok... it's still valid here

**themightyblue** · 26-03-2012, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by pobb

is it?

it's ok... it's still valid here

Alot of the discussions in the forums also keep using that term.

**dannyjoy** · 26-03-2012, 08:17 PM

Try to avoid her and pretend like that you are busy with someone and don't have time for her. I know it is too much hard to do for you. Two thing will happen either she will come with you or left you completely and i think condition are too worse right now so go for it. You will lose nothing in this relationship because you have nothing but there are few chances to get something.