girl/girl relationship and opinions

**simply_waiting** · 08-08-2007, 10:59 AM

i personally was a les and loved the girl so much that i made myself so terrible even after we broke up 7 mths after we got together. i've actually waited for 3 years and there was our 7 mths and poof... its all gone.. and she's found another guy...
someone please help me ...
and.. opinions on a relationship like this ?

**PiDanBeR** · 08-08-2007, 11:04 AM

well... I cant give much opinion as I nvr been in such a way of relationship... for me, if a girl left me and falling for another guy... i think its time to forget her and let her go... it seems that her heart has change... as time goes, u will slowly forget her... even if u really love her... of coz, forgetting a person is hard... but remembering her is harder too... keep ursef strong... there's a saying goes... 'Dun coz of a flower, and let go of the whole garden' there's still alot of girls/guys out there... cheer up...

**icecat** · 08-08-2007, 11:22 AM

Move on, girl.
How old are you girls? She might be just trying out what's a girl/girl relationship is about. Dun be sad.
Never been in a girl/girl relationship but I think it's the same as a girl/boy relationship. One has to be the boy, and one has to be the girl.

**simply_waiting** · 08-08-2007, 11:24 AM

yeah... forgetting is hard.. remembering is harder... i'm probably keep that in mind. its just that.. we still do contact and it just seems tough to give up.. thanks (:

**friendshipz** · 08-08-2007, 11:30 AM

simple, u need to do two thing.

1: list down all the advantage and positive feeling of being a friend wif her

2: ask yourself, wat do u really wan?

-do you wan to forget abt the relationship
if so , then tell yourself that breaking up wif her in order for me to find a better one out there.

**Finale** · 08-08-2007, 11:57 AM

well, its pretty normal.. cause when u mixed with someone very close, theres a few probability. either u like her as a friend, brother style or the romance style...
a few of my friends were worried that whether they are straight or not.. but eventually, all found bf and are quite happy =) its just a growing stage =)

**killtheblackkat** · 09-08-2007, 12:52 AM

one thing bout homo relationship is = you got all the time you want. coz after all i doubt you are rushing to settle down and start a family whatsoever.

just relax and enjoy life all you can. one thing i like bout homo is you dont have that much of responsibility to carry. sounds very irresponsible but at least 走得比较轻松.

just becoz of one girl... you paused your lesbianhood for a long time and walk pass other great girls. think la. today she can walk off you for another guy. even one day if you girls patched back...what makes you think she wont do it again?

haiz forget her la girl... enjoy ur lesbianhood to the fullest la:rock:

**illicit** · 09-08-2007, 04:15 AM

until u find another one, u ll be ok, so just hang on for this period, wont be too long de..

**-=[Z]=-** · 09-08-2007, 06:08 AM

don sad kayy

**simply_waiting** · 09-08-2007, 10:08 AM

thanks all... friendshipz... really made me think think think..

thanks !
as for killtheblackkat-- hahas... yeah... probably its so true... ((: thanks you guys.. add me on msn if u guys wan alright ?? hahs... can have a nice chat...
and to the others who care abt this thread.. thanks alot too ! add me on... lets talk .. be frens.. (:
tytyty .. really.. hahas...

**retxxter** · 09-08-2007, 10:20 AM

u ar les? Or u r bi also? If u r les, dun worry..u still can move on. it's hard to forget the gurl u like. Cuz i know the feeling, and I'm bi here. Somemore I got frenz who is les also, I mix alot around with them. Know u waited so long just to get along and relationship with her. But sometimes ur girl will need the things which gurl cant afford to give. I guess u know what I'm saying here. Cuz my les fren, her gf also runaway to another guy cuz my fren cant satisfied her.

Being a les, I know there are much more longer lasting and faithfull then those normal couples. Tat's why i like being les as well. But cant find one, cuz all my frenz are normal. Duh.

Move on gurl. U soon find a better one who love you who u are!

**burgerboi** · 09-08-2007, 01:49 PM

not much of an advice i can gif... however i have a gay fren who broke up with his bf 2 months ago, he came to me and 2 other girlfriends and talked about it
he seems pretty wasted, like taking drugs... but no he did NOT take drugs, he only din sleep and eat well
we told him we cant help much, but he eventually forget bout the guy
and shifted his attention to a girl
now he's a bisex, and kinda happy with the way things are

**ah_lei** · 09-08-2007, 03:40 PM

OKOK.............. let me change u back to normal.. =D

**Shyraiiyann** · 09-08-2007, 03:42 PM

Because the girl is practical, and knows no les stays a les forever [very few]

even my super lesty friend [butch lai de]
she is crazy over her gf etc, but deep down, she say, she knows.
no one stays a les forever, at least for her, and the gf..

let go, get another gf, she moved on le, no matter wad you do, it'll also be worthless, your a good individual yourself, move on

**icyOrange** · 09-08-2007, 05:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shyraiiyann

Because the girl is practical, and knows no les stays a les forever [very few]

even my super lesty friend [butch lai de]
she is crazy over her gf etc, but deep down, she say, she knows.
no one stays a les forever, at least for her, and the gf..

let go, get another gf, she moved on le, no matter wad you do, it'll also be worthless, your a good individual yourself, move on

very true. Most of the les will turn straight as they get older and more matured since they starts to think whats right and whats wrong for them and their future..

**simply_waiting** · 09-08-2007, 08:20 PM

yeap.. kinda get wat u guys are toking abt.. its like.. after certain period of times... kinda true that there isn't a chance tat u'd stay a les forever.. and oh.. to retxxter.. i bi too... hahas... and to ah lei.. er hum.. hahas.. ! how are u gonna help me ??

add me pals.. (: esp. ah lei.. u said de worrx... wanna help me arhx..

thanks all... sometimes i ownself also duno why can't i just move on and find another better one.. be it a girl or a guy... someone help me arhx... save me outta this mess ! hahs..

Benkee · 09-08-2007, 08:27 PM

My personal opinion is that whether will a relationship be it a girl/girl or a girl/guy relationship.. at such a certain age...usually in the teenage to adulthood years..there will be many changes here and there.

In the instance of a les relationship, I am sure one day when you met a charming opposite sex that put in effort to woo you and take care of you, surely no one can resist. This is human nature, human are attracted to opposite sex no matter what. It's just a matter of time only.

Like what i say previously at another similar topic kind of thread. You all don't see two male animals trying to mate correct? Actually humans are somewhat like animals. We live in this same earth and nature as the animal but however, human are more clever and thus we see ourselves triumph over other animals.

The bottome line is, even how clever human is, we still cannot defy the nature act of opposite sex attracts. Thanks.

**arty_29** · 11-08-2007, 01:30 AM

Im a les too.. It depends on urself on how to control ur feelings..
What is past is past no point of bringing it back again, let all the happy be in our memories..after sumtime ur love for her will fade away but the love/missing her is still there.. There is still other better ones and gd looking waiting and searching for the rite person..
All I can say have faith, confident and positive thinking..

**stevetan** · 11-08-2007, 04:01 AM

Just let go and find another one.

**Casper26** · 11-08-2007, 08:13 AM

Wells, when it comes to matter of love, to me, it ain't the time or length.

Its the quality.

I just hope that you didn't regret being with her, and be glad that at least she was with you for the 7mths despite waiting for 3years.
She did give you a chance.

I've been through the same thing before. I know how sucky it would feels, but time would fade those feelings although the scars would still be there.

Take care and shift your attention to something else bahs. Maybe with friends or sports or some of your fav past time. Don't dwell into it.
Ain't healthy and helping you at all.