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Old 25th January 2011, 02:49 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Great. I have parents who play favouritsm

I've been holding this back for quite a well, I felt I needed the space to just VENT all this shit out.

I have a sister, she's 15 this year. Dont worry, our relationship is really good. (no sarcasm intended)

But I have parents who show obvious signs of biasedness towards her. And I hate it.
It makes me feel like I'm left out and so on.

I'll list a few examples.

Once, my dad suddenly pop the question, saying, "Eh you all want iPhone?"
And the obvious answer we gave was of course a bright gleam on the face.

A month later, my sis's contract needed to be renewed. So one day, he brought back 2 iPhone 3GS, one for her and one for, you guessed it, him.
I wasnt a bit delighted at all, I've been using this old phone which has been sent for servicing various times leading to me without phones for a couple of month. I'm just graduated from sec4 btw, JC next week.

A year later( this jan), (note that I'm still using the same phone), my dad asked my sis if she wanted a new phone, he brought the whole family, my mum, my sis to Tampines Mall to find a new phone for her and him. He literally brought out an ENTIRE catalog of phones and asked her to pick one. And he even asked ME to help her with one since I knew more about phones. So, in the end, my sis ended with an SE X8, and him and iPhone 4.

I was like WDF SERIOUSLY. In 2007 November, I had to literally BEG HIM for a new phone that dont need a single cent, because I could renew my contract, up till now, I'm still using the same phone. And I have to pay for my own Caller ID($5), where my sis on the other hand has a data plan, and everyth else she needs, or rather wants.

And oh yea, I forgot an impt part ( I figured putting this here was more relavant).
In 2009, he used my mobile line, which then I could have gotten a new free phone to replace my forever servicing phone. He used MY line(which he paid for, thats why i couldnt do a shit), to get a new blackberry for himself( he has 2 phones).

SO WDF SERIOUSLY, My sis has 2 phones in 2 years, (phones you have to top up cash), while me on the other hand has been using a phone for 4 years( which was free), and still no signs of getting a new phone. (Despite the fact my sis just got a new on this Jan)

Example 2,
My Sis wanted to learn piano, so he bought a 4k piano for her.
I wanted to pick up guitar, I paid $300 of my own money (i worked).
Guess what he said, dont waste money and learn something useless, go make yourself useful.

Example3,
My studies has always been significant better than my sis.
I scored 40 points higher than her in PSLE.
I have to quit my job to tuition her and dont get a single cent, or even appreciation.

Example4,
I got L1R5 of 10 raw in Os this year. I was rather satisfied, because I knew I worked hard for this. I'm not smart btw, only hardworking.
Guess what he said? You cant even make it to RI or HCI, so dont make yourself sound so good. WDF DID I DO?

Honestly, I have enough of this crap.
I started working at primary 5 (bubble tea shop), because I couldnt get enough for school.
You know everytime they the school makes us go for enrichment and buy books like tys. I paid for all those shit, and they arent even cheap. Stop working for a year to study for streaming.
I worked at fast food chains at sec3 to earn enough to have recess lunch outside.
You're probably wondering how much I have as pocket money.
I get $4 a day, breakfast, lunch.
My sis gets $4 a day too, she comes back for lunch.
When I think back, I was literally feeding myself alrdy.
And everytime I try to reason with him, it all boils down to this - You stay in my house, I am your father.

And you know those CNY angpao we get? My parents take them all and leave me with a miserable $30 each. And I have to pay for my own new clothing.

I have tried leaving obvious signs such as talking to my mom about it.
Telling my dad i dont have enough money.

Im not upset, only to pity myself.

Dont worry, i havent lost the will to live (Im not a stupid loser who thinks dying is everything)

Thank you for your precious time for reading.
I feel so much better now.

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Old 25th January 2011, 09:54 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: Great. I have parents who play favouritsm

There are two ways you can go from here.

You can walk the path of the bigger man and continue to love your family (everyone) despite what they had done to you.

Or, you can walk the path of the smaller man and no longer contribute meaningfully to the household, plan some acts of revenge and make them suffer for the things they had done to you.

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Old 25th January 2011, 10:22 PM   #3 (permalink)
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can't help but notice most of your displeasure derives from money/material possessions related issues. don't worry, teenage stoicism will take over. worked well for me.

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I know how you feel. My parents also like my elder brother more than me.

I think what you could do is just forgive them for being them. It's not their fault they're like that. What to do right? Accept your parents (dad mostly, from how i read it), for how they are and just continue working and saving for yourself. There's nothing much you can really do.

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Old 25th January 2011, 10:35 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Re: Great. I have parents who play favouritsm

Originally Posted by ALCOHOLIQUE View Post
can't help but notice most of your displeasure derives from money/material possessions related issues. don't worry, teenage stoicism will take over. worked well for me.
I kinda disagree with this statement.
As TS stated, he started work at a bubble tea shop to earn pocket money, at primary school age. Tell me the last time you got a job.

TS, I support you!
JY!

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Re: Great. I have parents who play favouritsm

If i was you i would have walked out long ago. Not that i could survive, just to emphasize how much attention i think u need from them...

They seriously need to notice how much you have been contributing to the family compared to your own stuff in your life...
I'm not encouraging you to walk out on them, but try to get their attention somehow?
There was once i lost my temper and screamed at my family... My O's were coming but they didn't even notice how much i wanted a good studying environment..

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Originally Posted by iamSerenity View Post
I kinda disagree with this statement.
As TS stated, he started work at a bubble tea shop to earn pocket money, at primary school age. Tell me the last time you got a job.

TS, I support you!
JY!
last time i got a job was right before ns took over my time. ended up with less money than i had before. curious.

anyhow, how did such a neutral comment get regarded with so much biting negativity?

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perhaps you can ask your sister to negotiate for you?

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last time i got a job was right before ns took over my time. ended up with less money than i had before. curious.

anyhow, how did such a neutral comment get regarded with so much biting negativity?
Thousand apologies if I sounded rude.

Because I was once in TS shoes and I understand exactly how he feels, only my case was slightly better off.

Judging from his post,
He should be 17, since he finished Os.
Which is apparently relatively young.

To TS:
Bear with more with a bigger heart, you'll grow out be a young fine man.

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Originally Posted by iamSerenity View Post
Thousand apologies if I sounded rude.

Because I was once in TS shoes and I understand exactly how he feels, only my case was slightly better off.

Judging from his post,
He should be 17, since he finished Os.
Which is apparently relatively young.

To TS:
Bear with more with a bigger heart, you'll grow out be a young fine man.
hey, no hard feelings man.

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Psh this is nth new. I was made to buy food for my brother even thou i was having a fever. and he is 15. Spoilt pampered child.

Think of it in a bigger picture, u learn to be more independant, while ur sibling gets spoilt, so ur highly likely to thrive in the future methinks.

But yea its crazy the feeling.

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Originally Posted by iamSerenity View Post
Thousand apologies if I sounded rude.

Because I was once in TS shoes and I understand exactly how he feels, only my case was slightly better off.

Judging from his post,
He should be 17, since he finished Os.
Which is apparently relatively young.

To TS:
Bear with more with a bigger heart, you'll grow out be a young fine man.
So sad TS!But hope you succeed next time.Which JC you going?Hope you going NYJC also..Talk to your mother la.I scold my parents if I know they are in wrong.There is nothing wrong.


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Old 25th January 2011, 11:27 PM   #14 (permalink)
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i applaud you for your perseverance and determination despite so many setbacks..
you should be proud of yourself
for i was once in ur shoes.. i know exactly how u feel..

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awwww TS - you poor thing.

but ehh maybe becoz you are a kor kor and also your parents know you are much capable than your sister and they also know you can manage things pretty well on your own so they pay more attention to your sister hoping to guide her and motivate her to be as capable and independent like you?

yeah that's what I could think of for you. The fact that you could kept this thing to yourself for so long and you could still get along well with your sister (and parents?) only shows that you are a nice and forgiving person. I am sure your parents and your sister appreciate you deeply and are very proud of you. Some Asian parents don't express their feelings to their sons, especially father to son.

TS - maybe you will be blessed with a good future? good career and good gf?

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TS, i'm sorry we can't do much much except for giving you some moral supports. JY.

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dun care abt yr father!!u work hard for yrself and not for him or anyone else!!just conc and focus on yr studies!!and get into a uni!!earn big bucks in future and show it off to yr father tat u earn more den he does!!

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And everytime I try to reason with him, it all boils down to this - You stay in my house, I am your father.
This is seriously one bullcrap reason for treating you the way he treats you. Going by his logic... lets say if i were the president, that means i can give him a tight slap for no apparent reason and then i'll just say "you stay in my country, i am your president"...

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I'm curious. What's better about your sister to them that they're treating her better?

Btw, I survived with roughly the same allowance as you. And I'm even able to save $5 - $10 a week, I bought anything I want with the money I saved, not including school related stuffs and clothes so I guess that's a bit harsh on that aspect.

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Only thing I can help you now with is to recommend you to find a job to support yourself and give you moral support.
Of course, you can always do drastic actions such as running away from home and such, but such drastic actions are just going to result in a zero-sum game in the end.

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