Guys love to ignore gals?

**kiss_goodnite** · 28-07-2011, 06:24 PM

Been thru quite a number of r/s, most of e guys during r/s will have a period of time when they start ignoring gal? Is it because u guys are tired of e r/s n want to break up?

My current bf used to be very caring, I was so touched by wat he had done for me. I miss his early morning n gudnite text... These days he doesnt text me a single one. When I text him, he still replies, after awhile he stops replying. When I tried not to text him for 2 days, he didnt text me as well. I sent him message said if he wants to just be f then tell me, but in e end he nvr replied...

Wat is happening? He just broke up with his ex a few mths ago. I dated him cuz he appears to me as a mature guy who I can depend on. We were both looking for serious r/s too.. But maybe all e things he told me just lies only? Will u guys tend to lie to a gal just to get her n once u got her, u abandon her?

Thanks

**Satoshi** · 28-07-2011, 06:32 PM

No la its just humans la,we want what we cannot get. And if we get, we tend to neglect a lil bit here and there lo. Go confront him la.

Then again, maybe he has been reading advices online. Girls like 'bad' boys lol. So maybe he trying to be bad so he gets more attention?

Soemtimes we really in a dilema, too lil attention this will happen, too much attention yall think damn mafan keep talkin then ask for space.

Its impt u strike a balance. Dun end up like me kena dumped b4 NS. Sucks balls

**PECTOPAH** · 28-07-2011, 06:38 PM

did u give him something he wanted?

**HomeMadeArt** · 28-07-2011, 06:38 PM

Sometimes, its just guys being tired of giving in..

**kiss_goodnite** · 28-07-2011, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Satoshi

No la its just humans la,we want what we cannot get. And if we get, we tend to neglect a lil bit here and there lo. Go confront him la.

Then again, maybe he has been reading advices online. Girls like 'bad' boys lol. So maybe he trying to be bad so he gets more attention?

Soemtimes we really in a dilema, too lil attention this will happen, too much attention yall think damn mafan keep talkin then ask for space.

Its impt u strike a balance. Dun end up like me kena dumped b4 NS. Sucks balls

U mean he is acting cool? But he obviously can c Im vr stressed over school stuffs, tat I need someone to be there. Last time he used to cheer me up, now everything changed liao.

I feel like calling him, but he s too busy w wk. Im scared he dun even wan to pick up my call, like he s running away frm me..

Is it true that sometimes guys wan to be cared for like baobei, tat I need to lower my self-esteem n just cont to text him even tho he just reluctantly replies?

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Originally Posted by PECTOPAH

did u give him something he wanted?

Nope... we respect each other decision

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Originally Posted by HomeMadeArt

Sometimes, its just guys being tired of giving in..

I nvr make him feel he s e only one giving in wut.. I care 4 him a lot too. Anw he has just given in 4 a month alr feel tired? lol

**Satoshi** · 28-07-2011, 06:55 PM

^ Yes guys like to be pampered by his girl as well. Society always paints the guy with the image of being strong and taut and cool. But guys also have feelings, he also want to feel loved 1. We also humans leh lol.

Just text him la. Forget ur ego, yall are couples. Keep txting him. If he really keep dao u, something definitely wrong alr

**Underagenoob** · 28-07-2011, 07:17 PM

It seems that you love him a lot. True, what Satoshi said is true. You can't just think that 1 month of giving ain't tiring. It's a lot of give and take in a relationship. You can't expect to be loved all the time. Think about him, how does he feel if you don't return him what he deserves? Ego is what destroys most relationships.
If this goes on for a quite some time, ask him what's wrong and also keep your tone and voice at a relatively 'nice' level. Be prepared for some hard truths though.

**xin6565** · 28-07-2011, 07:37 PM

Q:Will u guys tend to lie to a gal just to get her n once u got her, u abandon her?
Ans:Some yes, Some no. No cause we just need a stable gf to talk to .
Yes cause some just want you when we are bored.

Q;But maybe all e things he told me just lies only?
Ans:Some lies, some dont.
Dont cause i knew you trust me and i will trust you back.
Yes Cause, maybe he want hide something from you?Or he just bored of you.

THE END..

**theliverevoluti** · 28-07-2011, 07:56 PM

Perhaps you need to talk to him about this, about your feelings. And not via SMS, but actually sitting down with him, face-to-face and sharing your thoughts and accepting his thoughts. Communication is key in any relationship, and if you don't have deep, intimate heart-to-heart talks, then how can there be any communication?

My gut feeling tells me he's not really over his past relationship. Give him some time to mope and reflect over it if need be. Let him talk about it, vent his frustrations in words if need be. The problem with men is that they bottle up their thoughts and feelings inside, and while they won't admit it, they need someone who can listen to them with understanding.

**xluciferxsatan** · 28-07-2011, 08:11 PM

well at least i know im certainly not that kinda person. hehe

**blackkchoco** · 28-07-2011, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by HomeMadeArt

Sometimes, its just guys being tired of giving in..

im in similar boat where the guy i like seem to be hot and cold and ignore me whenever he wants. im tired of giving in.

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Originally Posted by Satoshi

No la its just humans la,we want what we cannot get. And if we get, we tend to neglect a lil bit here and there lo. Go confront him la.

Then again, maybe he has been reading advices online. Girls like 'bad' boys lol. So maybe he trying to be bad so he gets more attention?

Soemtimes we really in a dilema, too lil attention this will happen, too much attention yall think damn mafan keep talkin then ask for space.

Its impt u strike a balance. Dun end up like me kena dumped b4 NS. Sucks balls

wah, then the advices damn wrong sia (in my POV) lol.
i thought girls are suppose to be more needy of attention in a sense...i thought this is international language. lol

**bii gal** · 28-07-2011, 08:59 PM

i think his feelings has faded for you or has another girl he paying attention to le.. from my past experiences. if he still has feelings for you, he wouldn't not bother to reply.

Angelicia · 28-07-2011, 09:25 PM

straight forward, he used you to get over his ex.

**Satoshi** · 28-07-2011, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by blackkchoco

im in similar boat where the guy i like seem to be hot and cold and ignore me whenever he wants. im tired of giving in.

wah, then the advices damn wrong sia (in my POV) lol.
i thought girls are suppose to be more needy of attention in a sense...i thought this is international language. lol

Ya its a wrong international language that people are gradually trying to do away with. Its a worldwide MISCONCEPTION.

Contrary to popular beliefs, guys are sensitive creatures too. We actually need ur attention more than u do. I read about it somewhere so dun quote me.

Then again watever la sial hahaha. If like that. then like that lo.

Wat army teachers boys, suck it up

**lwjksy** · 28-07-2011, 09:37 PM

I did it cause i had feelings for another person

**millymoe** · 28-07-2011, 09:47 PM

This has happened to me plenty of times. What you can do is just to shrug it off. Sometimes you would find that you when you want someone so much but its not quite possible and so much so that it hurts everytime you think of this person. It doesn't have to be someone you've known for years or many months, but it could be someone you just met and you know you're bowled over by this person.

I know the feeling! You see the contact on your phone, you're itching to text him all the time and your fingers are inching for the phone. Once you cant control it, you text anyway but there's a sinking feeling in your hear- you know he'll never reply but with all your might you wish he would. So one hour passes, six hours, a day- cause you've fallen asleep, and before you know it a week passes. Still, your inbox remains devoid of his words.

What I did was to change my number, my phone and only saved those contacts I know I'll be contacting with in the future. But I'm sure your situation is different from mine. If I were you, I'll meet him and have a heart to heart talk with him.

Other people say that this happens because the guy doesn't know how to treasure you and you should forget him drone drone drone.. But they are not in your shoes, they dont know how much you like this guy. So, how would you deal with this?

**HomeMadeArt** · 28-07-2011, 10:00 PM

i was in this situation before.. with my ex.
I realised something was wrong. The matter of fact is that i was the one getting colder.
So i went to her house and talked to her about how we should change in order to continue on.
But after given time,it didnt work out. so we broke off.
I still have feelings for her though, the break was an inevitable and unavoidable one.
So my suggestion is that,get things clear with him, in a nice way. face to face. Texting often misleads others of your attitude, so dont text.
good luck girl.

**AngryAmelia** · 28-07-2011, 10:26 PM

Maybe you can talk this out face to face with him?

**MayumiYoshiyuki** · 28-07-2011, 10:36 PM

talk to him and find out what is wrong..

maybe he's having some personal problems /family/study/work probs that he's not telling u and he's just keeping it inside and stressing over it until he start to become overwhelm by probs that is why he is becoming cold and distant?

**Arrow** · 28-07-2011, 10:51 PM

It just means the honey moon phase.

This video is kinda helpful to understand... but it doesn't have to be so dramatic.

yout