Guys love to ignore gals? - Page 2

**Satoshi** · 28-07-2011, 10:56 PM

Im assuming ur r/s still very new la actually hahaha.

U very easy pian leh walao

**shines** · 28-07-2011, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by kiss_goodnite

Will u guys tend to lie to a gal just to get her n once u got her, u abandon her?

There are guys who will abandon the girls but there are also guys who really treasure their gfs and will never want to leave their gfs. Infact, some guys even went crazy after their gfs left them. This shows the guy really loves the girl.

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Originally Posted by kiss_goodnite

I dated him cuz he appears to me as a mature guy who I can depend on. We were both looking for serious r/s too..

I am sure there are many out there looking for serious relationships but that doesn't mean everyone will start to get together as a couple. There must be mutual feelings. Love cannot be forced. There is a Chinese say something like "you caught the person but you did not catch his heart " 抓到他的人，但没有抓到他的心

I know it's easier said than done and what do I know right? but a forced love might hurt you even more later.

Good luck

**Yach** · 29-07-2011, 12:05 AM

My opinion i am about to post is pretty obvious but still just listing it here....

The initial stages of a relationship (a.k.a paktor period) of course the guy will put in more effort etc.. express many good characters (extra caring...) etc.. excited about the new relationship. Especially true since they do not really know the girls yet, they need to be more "good" to make sure the girls stay with them.

After weeks/months the thrill is gone, guys do not need to put in too much effort (especially true if they got what they want/the girl like the guy a lot) to continue the relationship.

What you are experiencing isnt a case of "ignoring", more of transition from "lovey dovey paktor period" to a normal flow.

**christmas_** · 29-07-2011, 08:33 AM

I would rather think that it is girls who like to ignore guys

**Satoshi** · 29-07-2011, 05:24 PM

^. Daaaaaaaayyyuuumm!!!

WORD~

**theliverevoluti** · 29-07-2011, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by christmas_

I would rather think that it is girls who like to ignore guys

That's extremely masochistic of you.
Ignorance can go both ways, depending on the parties involved and their reasons behind it. To generalise everything and blame it on the fairer sex is extremely chauvinist. Many a times, I see guys ignoring girls for their various reasons despite the girl's advances.

Furthermore, I believe that you would be familiar with the exact opposite of what you are suggesting in the above sentence.

**zguangweiz** · 30-07-2011, 04:32 AM

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Originally Posted by theliverevoluti

That's extremely masochistic of you.
Ignorance can go both ways, depending on the parties involved and their reasons behind it. To generalise everything and blame it on the fairer sex is extremely chauvinist. Many a times, I see guys ignoring girls for their various reasons despite the girl's advances.

Furthermore, I believe that you would be familiar with the exact opposite of what you are suggesting in the above sentence.

I dont understand your masochistic and chauvinism term. She can say guy ignore girl more, but he cannot say girl ignore guy more? o_O

chauvinism
smug irrational belief in the superiority of one's own race, party, sex, etc: male chauvinism - dictionary.com

masochistic
Psychiatry . the condition in which sexual gratification depends on suffering, physical pain, and humiliation.

Just how is he even having a belief that male are superior and find physical abuse to him sexually arousing by saying girls ignore guys?
Like TS is just his personal opinion what,.. why is he quoted to this post and not TS's

**shines** · 30-07-2011, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by christmas_

I would rather think that it is girls who like to ignore guys

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Originally Posted by theliverevoluti

That's extremely masochistic of you.
Ignorance can go both ways, depending on the parties involved and their reasons behind it. To generalise everything and blame it on the fairer sex is extremely chauvinist. Many a times, I see guys ignoring girls for their various reasons despite the girl's advances.

Furthermore, I believe that you would be familiar with the exact opposite of what you are suggesting in the above sentence.

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Originally Posted by zguangweiz

I dont understand your masochistic and chauvinism term.

I see the word "masochistic" quite commonly used in a non-sexual sense. It speaks of someone's tendency/willingness to subject oneself to unpleasant position.

As to the word "chauvinistic", it can be used to describe someone being conservative and bent on thinking in a certain way.

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Originally Posted by zguangweiz

She can say guy ignore girl more, but he cannot say girl ignore guy more? o_O

but ehh theliverevoluti said "ignorance can go both ways ... "

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Originally Posted by zguangweiz

Like TS is just his personal opinion what,.. why is he quoted to this post and not TS's

In a forum, would'nt you think it is fair if one has a case to back up on one's opinion? Readers would understand you better otherwise your opinion is just empty talk

. It can be annoying too

TS has a case to back up her opinion. Although one's experiences cannot represent a general trend but it is common that most of us, if we encounter something unpleasant in life we tend to form an opinion of it and believe it to be so. It is a natural reaction.

But as for Christmas' statement, frankly, I thought that was a blatant remark unless he has a case. If he doesn't want to tell us his case, then don't blame the reading public for criticising him

**zguangweiz** · 30-07-2011, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by christmas_

I would rather think that it is girls who like to ignore guys

So what are your story that makes you think so? o_o

**Holly** · 21-08-2011, 09:03 PM

He's playing hard to get.

**pobb** · 21-08-2011, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by kiss_goodnite

Will u guys tend to lie to a gal just to get her n once u got her, u abandon her?

Thanks

no guy who is mature, serious and a good person would be so free to do that. everyone got school/work.... you think every guy so bo liao? you think every guy is a liar? please lahhhh

**pobb** · 21-08-2011, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Holly

He's playing hard to get.

what makes you say so? your assumption or is there hard evidence?

your preconception that someone is "playing hard to get" could actually make you avoid finding out the cause and sow distrust. this will only result in conflict and divide the couple.

**mrhandsome-abit** · 03-09-2011, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Satoshi

Ya its a wrong international language that people are gradually trying to do away with. Its a worldwide MISCONCEPTION.

Agree very much. lol

BeRRies-* · 04-09-2011, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Satoshi

No la its just humans la,we want what we cannot get. And if we get, we tend to neglect a lil bit here and there lo. Go confront him la.

Then again, maybe he has been reading advices online. Girls like 'bad' boys lol. So maybe he trying to be bad so he gets more attention?

Soemtimes we really in a dilema, too lil attention this will happen, too much attention yall think damn mafan keep talkin then ask for space.

Its impt u strike a balance. Dun end up like me kena dumped b4 NS. Sucks balls

Hmmm, somehow agree with u.

**helios467** · 29-12-2011, 12:15 PM

Actually, sounds more to me that TS is thinking too much and should give the guy some space.

He can be having troubles at work like you mentioned, and he is stressed over them as he has to keep his job to support you.

But you are thinking too much and giving him another headache with that "just be friends" sms.

Talk to him and find out more before jumping to conclusions.

**SkyBao** · 05-01-2012, 06:40 PM

Maybe he is playing skyrim.. Jokes aside.. When guys (not all) are stressed they wouldn't want to share it with their gf.. so maybe give him some time alone or offer a listening ear.

**WhiteSpade** · 06-01-2012, 10:20 AM

Sometimes it's just circumstances that keep them busy & occupied to the extent they forget to contact the girl. Or it could be that the girl keeps pressurising the boy for a reply, and spams him more, hoping that he'd reply her somehow. (Which can ruin the r/l in the later part).

**xose** · 06-01-2012, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by kiss_goodnite

Been thru quite a number of r/s, most of e guys during r/s will have a period of time when they start ignoring gal? Is it because u guys are tired of e r/s n want to break up?

My current bf used to be very caring, I was so touched by wat he had done for me. I miss his early morning n gudnite text... These days he doesnt text me a single one. When I text him, he still replies, after awhile he stops replying. When I tried not to text him for 2 days, he didnt text me as well. I sent him message said if he wants to just be f then tell me, but in e end he nvr replied...

Wat is happening? He just broke up with his ex a few mths ago. I dated him cuz he appears to me as a mature guy who I can depend on. We were both looking for serious r/s too.. But maybe all e things he told me just lies only? Will u guys tend to lie to a gal just to get her n once u got her, u abandon her?

Thanks

Truth be told. Attention are for those gals have not been slept with...

**WhiteSpade** · 06-01-2012, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by xose

Truth be told. Attention are for those gals have not been slept with...

Some guys are just trying to be players. Trying to take you for a ride, and dump you after that.

**melvin85** · 06-01-2012, 01:07 PM

Guy alway be guy.once hitch they think is ok d and simple thing that last time care might not be important to them

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