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Old 18th August 2010, 04:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Help! My mom dislike my GF

It all started out like this.. I decided to introduce her to my family when we were about 3 months.. I asked my mom if it is ok if she come and she said yes.. the next day she came, she saw my dad and say hello.. well, my dad seems to be alright with it.. but then my mom doesn't seem to take it well.. she was watching TV at that time, my gf comes up and said Hi but my mom kept quite and continued to watch TV... So I asked my gf to come with me to my room to meet my younger brother..
and because of this r/s my mom decided to throw me out, she did not threw me out verbally... but in fact, it was physical..
She beats me up before she threw me out.. and don't say I did not refuse, I did.
furthermore, the whole family was there and they did not even try to stop her.. It was because my mom is too dominant in the family, even my dad obeys her..

We've been together for 10 months backstreet! my mom doesn't allow me to have a gf and she gives no reason,.. she said she does not like my gf... anyone can help?? what to do??? Btw i'm 21 years old (surprise surprise!)

Ok.. Newest Update~
I went home tonight and we talked. I asked her for a little bit of freedom.. And She is fine with it now..
Now whats on my mind right now is.. should I tell her the truth that I'm still in a r/s with my gf? I can bet that she will flip out and go ballistic again...
I have told my gf about this situation, and she wants me to tell the truth.. because if we keep lying, she said that my mom will blame all the faults towards her..
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Old 18th August 2010, 04:31 PM   #2 (permalink)
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im truly shocked.. ure already 21 years old yet ur mum is still so protective=\..But i dont get it, your mum was the one who agree that your gf can come over, then suddenly she threw u out because she doesnt approve of ur r/s? Then why did she agree to let ur gf come over in the first place?

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Anything wrong with your gf? Your working or studying? or some other?

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Restrain yourself from harsh arguement or even violence. Communication is the key here.

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your mom is such an epic!!

hmm TS are you still studying???or working???
and by right, she don't have the rights to disagree with your RS because you are 21 edi...
you are a full grown adult...

ya, and another important thing is to let your mom know how are you doin in this rs, and show her that you have never been better~

jiayou o TS...
i dun hope you to be like me....haix T_T

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Wow, you are 21 and she still beat you up? Well since she put foods on your table, you got no choice but to suck it up

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im truly shocked.. ure already 21 years old yet ur mum is still so protective=\..But i dont get it, your mum was the one who agree that your gf can come over, then suddenly she threw u out because she doesnt approve of ur r/s? Then why did she agree to let ur gf come over in the first place?
Exactly! I can assure you that my gf did nothing wrong.. She was only in my house for about 20 minutes, she decided to go home because my parents wants to go out somewhere..

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Anything wrong with your gf? Your working or studying? or some other?
Nothing is wrong with my gf... She just finished her Advanced diploma in fashion design..
She studied at Raffles Design Institute of Singapore, majoring in Fashion design..

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your mom is such an epic!!

hmm TS are you still studying???or working???
and by right, she don't have the rights to disagree with your RS because you are 21 edi...
you are a full grown adult...

ya, and another important thing is to let your mom know how are you doin in this rs, and show her that you have never been better~

jiayou o TS...
i dun hope you to be like me....haix T_T

I'm currently working... I never asked my mom a single cent lor..

"ya, and another important thing is to let your mom know how are you doin in this rs, and show her that you have never been better~" <-- about this, I have said this to her.. and she said "then go with her! if you are happier with her. Don't bother being here with us! Marry her, I don't care. I won't come to you wedding"
I never even thought of getting married yet at this age..

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Wow, you are 21 and she still beat you up? Well since she put foods on your table, you got no choice but to suck it up
Yeah...

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Old 18th August 2010, 05:42 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Probably your mum don't want to lose you, so thats her reaction, but I am not too sure. Is your mum those kind of jealous/emotional type?

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is she you first gf???
if she is, i think your mom dun know how to react and she should be jealous becoz her son got another person to love and care for @@

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If mum dosent even respect you, how do u expect her to like/respect your girlfriend

I would say, focus on building on the mother-son r/s first

P:S: I know how nasty in laws can be!

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lol... she too traditional le?? haha... gd luck lo.. 21yrs le leiz.. zz.. omg.. tink ya nid talk 2 ur mum and ask..

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she must have been seriously unhappy if she could throw u out of the house...

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is she you first gf???
if she is, i think your mom dun know how to react and she should be jealous becoz her son got another person to love and care for @@
Nope.. She's my second.. My first was when I was in high school..
when she found out, she went ballistic as well.. kicked me in the stomach because of that

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Probably your mum don't want to lose you, so thats her reaction, but I am not too sure. Is your mum those kind of jealous/emotional type?
not sure.. I'm not too close with her since you know.. shes too violent and all..
we random share stories..

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lol... she too traditional le?? haha... gd luck lo.. 21yrs le leiz.. zz.. omg.. tink ya nid talk 2 ur mum and ask..
Yeah... too traditional! thats what I think too..

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Nope.. She's my second.. My first was when I was in high school..
when she found out, she went ballistic as well.. kicked me in the stomach because of that

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not sure.. I'm not too close with her since you know.. shes too violent and all..
we random share stories..

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Yeah... too traditional! thats what I think too..
Well I guess you are lucky she never kick your balls so you will never be able to find another gf.

Kind of a strange weird mum you got there, you sure you never do anything that agitate her? You finish your NS?

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the next time she hits you, you ask her boldly 'Ma! im 21yrs old already, why are you still hitting me??? it's only the matter of time i will have a family of my own. I know you love me but can't you trust me too??"

im sure she has her fears and reasons why she had reacted to violently against your r/s.

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TS, from what i can see, you mom has put all her hopes in you...

and btw, are you the only son, the only child???
and you need to talk to her about, don't flare up or what, ask her why is she reacting that why...
communication is very important de!!!

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Well I guess you are lucky she never kick your balls so you will never be able to find another gf.

Kind of a strange weird mum you got there, you sure you never do anything that agitate her? You finish your NS?
nope.. I dont think so...

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the next time she hits you, you ask her boldly 'Ma! im 21yrs old already, why are you still hitting me??? it's only the matter of time i will have a family of my own. I know you love me but can't you trust me too??"

im sure she has her fears and reasons why she had reacted to violently against your r/s.
I will say that.. Thanks..

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TS, from what i can see, you mom has put all her hopes in you...

and btw, are you the only son, the only child???
and you need to talk to her about, don't flare up or what, ask her why is she reacting that why...
communication is very important de!!!
Nope.. I'm the second child, but the oldest son..
I'll talk to her again tomorrow..

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Come on dude, its the 21st century.. time for you & your mum to have an adult talk. Be indepentent do not let them look down upon you. if anything forces you to resort to leaving, dont hesitate cause someday you would be leaving them too... time will definately prove to be the best cure.
i was in your position before(although i am younger ^^) but i am getting to regret it already. Its your life dude, dont tell me if your mum asked you to marry someone you would never love, and you would gladly do so..DO the right thing dude..

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the violence has to stop.
i feel that you should tell her that.
i don't see how your father and your siblings can live with that.
if she still continues her erratic behavior and violence,
i would recommend you to seek help from the police.
i personally believe that no child should be constantly subjected to this kind of abuse.
no matter at what age,the child will still be emotionally and psychologically scarred.

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Come on dude, its the 21st century.. time for you & your mum to have an adult talk. Be indepentent do not let them look down upon you. if anything forces you to resort to leaving, dont hesitate cause someday you would be leaving them too... time will definately prove to be the best cure.
i was in your position before(although i am younger ^^) but i am getting to regret it already. Its your life dude, dont tell me if your mum asked you to marry someone you would never love, and you would gladly do so..DO the right thing dude..
Its not that easy.. My mom is different.. if she does not like that person she will not change her mind..
I'm afraid if I insist, she will not consider me as her son anymore..
I don't have much money to live on my own..

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