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Old 18th January 2012, 02:16 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How to stop my jealousy??

I am a seriously a jealousy type and whenever my BF looking at other girls, i will start to mad until both of us having a BIG ARGUEMENT. When i am fine then, i will felt so much guilty and pity for him for having me such a madness GF. I need kind advices from you all, what should i do to reduce my jealousy level? =(

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Old 18th January 2012, 11:25 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

It's natural for human to look @ attractive things or human. U shld have more confidence in yourself. Unless ur bf goes overboard, take their number, touch or flirt them.

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Old 19th January 2012, 12:26 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by smallbum View Post
It's natural for human to look @ attractive things or human. U shld have more confidence in yourself. Unless ur bf goes overboard, take their number, touch or flirt them.
Agree...but maybe u can try the opposite...help ur bf to look out n ask him to see pretty gers...I did tt to mine n he hardly sees them... Well, yes at sometimes but he will know when to stop...lol...


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Old 19th January 2012, 04:57 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

this happens when youre not confident enough .
be confident ! guys like confident girls , it makes them hot .
and stop being so petty , its going to harm your relationship in long term .
and if you really love him , you shouldnt even control his freedom of looking at girls
unless he's like flirting , asking for number all these la .
look only , wont die what .
its not as if you had never admire a handsome guy before also .

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Old 3rd February 2012, 12:13 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

Originally Posted by o0jamie0o View Post
this happens when youre not confident enough .
be confident ! guys like confident girls , it makes them hot .
and stop being so petty , its going to harm your relationship in long term .
and if you really love him , you shouldnt even control his freedom of looking at girls
unless he's like flirting , asking for number all these la .
look only , wont die what .
its not as if you had never admire a handsome guy before also .
My jealousy getting worst once he betrayed me before that's why i hardly trust him. Betrayed then at last coming back to me also. Yet still like to look at other girls, not only pretty as long as wearing shorts!!! yes, i nvr admired any guys before because i am not the type that bother of how people look.. Handsome or not i never even care. but i care so much if he keep looking at other girls. sigh.. its not that i have no confidence but its hurt when he keep looking at others.. )=

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Old 4th February 2012, 12:27 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

I have the same problem. That's why I guess I'm better off single.. Sigh!!

Especially since my "overly sensitivity" had been proven right time and again! And when attached or even married guys try to hit on me.. How not to get jealous?

I salute girls who can tahan their bfs being so friendly with other girls.. I can't nvr take it.

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Old 7th February 2012, 11:40 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

Originally Posted by PrissyMissy View Post
I have the same problem. That's why I guess I'm better off single.. Sigh!!

Especially since my "overly sensitivity" had been proven right time and again! And when attached or even married guys try to hit on me.. How not to get jealous?

I salute girls who can tahan their bfs being so friendly with other girls.. I can't nvr take it.
I don't know if i salute girls that can tahan see their bfs friendly with other girls or not because i ever get shoot by my bf that i am crazy, bad and non understanding due to comparison made between me and those girls he knew can tahan see their bfs mix with other girls. He said that those kind of girls are the best because so understanding, sporting, unlike me that crazy and non sense. sigh.. so hard.. i just want a man that aware his limit and care my feeling.

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Old 24th January 2013, 01:37 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

Maybe you should stop being insecure to some other girls. The fact that she's already your boyfriend proves that you are the one he loves. He's just appreciating some other girls beauty. You should check yourself, maybe you are lacking of something. Treat yourself to a makeover. Im sure its gonna make a little difference and might boost your confidence.

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Old 12th April 2013, 05:27 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

He should have the 'self-control' tendency to reduce that once you've talked to him about how uncomfortable you feel about it. At least that's what I think a caring boyfriend should do. Decent guys I know have the tendency to 'look' at other girls, but the moment they realize it, they would sort of focus back on their girls because they feel that it isn't right. My friends usually tease them saying something like "So am I not good looking enough?" when they notice their guys doing it. But not at an overboard manner.

In a way, I would disagree with elohz's statement about because he's your boyfriend it proves that he loves you. I've known of many guys who are constantly looking for 'better' girls despite having girlfriends themselves. They are usually on the lookout for girls that are 'hotter', 'cuter', 'easier to bed' etc. Then if the opportunity presents itself, it's hard to say what they would do.

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Old 19th April 2013, 12:03 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

I was once like you, i became extremely sensitive and it caused to end my relationship of 3 years. First you have to accept that you're not the most hot/beautiful woman. Yes, this is the ugly truth that all girls need to accept it. He may take a glimpse of them, you need to accept it.

Need to bear in mind, its just a one-time thing. They passed by, he look, thats it. Over. It's not like hes staring all the way or approach them. Don't bring it up to argue, it only make him think you're over-reacting, being dramatic. Guys HATE this. Trust me.

Learn to understand that if this is one of the quarrel that is going to lead to a break up, you can only blame yourself for taking things too hard. In which i've lost my boyfriend. Don't wait till things blow up and start to apologize, damage is already done.

Naturally, if you feel pissed inside, don't let it take over control you. Infact, do the same back. Look at hot guys when they passed by, gradually he will notice. Don't breathe out words to start an argument, especially in public.

Remember that you are his girlfriend, officially. Cherish this status that you have, don't wait till its gone to regret, because i regretted. The more you are going to be confident about yourself, not getting pissed over small things. gradually he will love you even more. Its a guy thing in them.

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Old 18th June 2013, 06:57 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

Ya this happens with most of us... But if you really trust your bf and knows that he is doing this to just tease you and try to avoid this and ask him but don't make a big issue.

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Old 18th June 2013, 07:11 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

okay Gloria, being jealous when your boyfriend is checking other girls out is completely normal but being jealous when he's just looking around or talking to girls is completely unnecessary. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you stop call contact with the people of other gender.

Now there are two things you can do
First: Have a healthy relationship, try to be little less jealous and understand the boundaries of your relationship. Jealousy means you are insecure about your relationship and you should talk to your partner about it and strengthen your relationship and trust.

Second: "Men are completely dispensable and utterly unnecessary" said somebody who used to be an actress back in the 80s. Can't say the same about her acting skills but she's right about the statement.
You can ditch your boyfriend, go ahead with your life, start organizing your priorities and allow your mind to act on its own instead of letting a relationship insecurity taking it over.
So, live your life, chill with your friends, get serious when the time is right and when you think, you can handle the hard work.

hope my advice helps.

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Old 19th June 2013, 12:36 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

Men do look at women whenever they dress up, this is inevitable. In fact one that doesn't look at women is odd.

The only way to stop your jealousy is to stop yourself from thinking too much, or over-reading into his actions. All these unnecessary self story-telling is going to hurt yourself and hurt the relationship you have with your BF. Although he might have betray you once, you must still have more confidence or trust in yourself that you are attractive to him that's why he came back to you afterall.

On the other hand, you wear swee-swee and attract stares lor, make him jealous in return....

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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

its a natural prboblem of all womens,no one can stop

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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

i look at girls myself too so i don't think we can stop the guys. The easiest way is to look at girls with him? at least both of you will have common topic to chat and laugh at

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I guess they just cant help it, sometimes they din even realised that they are looking at them probably its nature to them to look at any female species liao

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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

there's always better looking girls around no matter how perfect a lady can be. So just that it that they are admiring beauty that's all. As long as they do not do anything, i would say looking is just fine.

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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

talk confidently with your boyfriend. maybe there is a huge sense of confusion between both of you

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Re: How to stop my jealousy??

I think TRUST is the key here friend. I mean, we all get jealous- girls and boys alike. But, if we are confident with our partner's love and if we trust him not to hurt us and to know his limit, then staring wouldn't hurt us any. If anything, you should ask yourself also if after being in a relationship with him, you have stopped appreciating beautiful people.

Then, another thing, keep in mind or try to reckon with yourself if your jealousy is more important than keeping your relationship with him smooth sailing. You may not realize it yet but your jealousy may be hurting your relationship more than your jealous streak actually hurts you.

Try to fathom if you are confident enough to trust him and accept that he is but human and is normal to appreciate beautiful "scenery".

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