Debate: Infidelity ... of the mind

Banao · 26-10-2009, 10:41 AM

Is pleasuring oneself with another person in mind considered infidelity to your partner?

Applies to all gender

**Emolisher** · 26-10-2009, 10:46 AM

You may say dat im conservative, but to me yes it is..

**Pinkgrapes2007** · 26-10-2009, 11:06 AM

yes, of cos it is....

**freezer_w** · 26-10-2009, 11:18 AM

Yes.
Undoubtedly to me

**the-toots** · 26-10-2009, 12:44 PM

YES!!!!!!!! DEFINITELY!!!! NOT ALLOWED!!!!!!!!! :@

if u really love him or her... u can and SHOULD ONLY think of HIM/HER!!!^^

crisjy · 26-10-2009, 05:49 PM

yes, assuredly, cfm, chop, 100%, no doubt.......but who would admit O.o

Banao · 26-10-2009, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by crisjy

yes, assuredly, cfm, chop, 100%, no doubt.......but who would admit O.o

What is your take on partners (especially guys) viewing pornographic materials?

**Sephiroth89** · 26-10-2009, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Banao

Is pleasuring oneself with another person in mind considered infidelity to your partner?

Applies to all gender

No. Everyone have their regrets in life and so does abit of swaying off for those who are weak.

As long as never physically do anything, infidelity is not included at all.

It is all "ren zhi chang qin".

**Chova** · 26-10-2009, 06:07 PM

Hmm what about doing that to your partner? Boyfriend or girlfriend? Would it be considered a sin?

**Sephiroth89** · 26-10-2009, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Chova

Hmm what about doing that to your partner? Boyfriend or girlfriend? Would it be considered a sin?

Sin is inevitable and lust is listed in the Ten Commandments to indicate that humans sin and we need to repent.

Some girls have sex dreaming of leehom or edison chen kinda thing, cant be helped too.

**sweetlemon** · 26-10-2009, 11:31 PM

To me.. there is a distinction between the different forms of ' infidelity of the mind '

Lets say you see a hot specimen of the opposite sex and spent a moment admiring him/her, that isn't too bad, is it?

However if you willingly allow yourself to obsess over someone you aren't supposed to ( ie. not your girlfriend/boyfriend ), then this is obviously a problem because you are cheating your partner and yourself. Such thoughts can only result in foolish actions on your part, ranging from unfairly comparing your partner with the other someone, and or committing the actual infidelity.

To sum it up, its okay to look and admire, but not to obsess. As for pornography, I feel that its a grey area. some girls deem it acceptable, some not. Generally there is a " don't ask, don't tell policy " which i find serves quite well.

**ir fácil** · 26-10-2009, 11:45 PM

girls just go be porn star. case close.
good career.

for girls who don't quite make the cut... hmmm... i guess that is why so many girls are producing their homemade films.

**superhunk** · 27-10-2009, 12:06 AM

for u guys info:

there is a research shown dat majority ofthe gurls cummed on fantasies, instead of the physical pleasures from their lover/partners.

andthese fantasies during sexual intercourse were mostly "someone else doing the job"

henceforth the doggie style.( she cant see u)

oh well. dont ban me. LOL

Banao · 27-10-2009, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ir fácil

girls just go be porn star. case close.
good career.

for girls who don't quite make the cut... hmmm... i guess that is why so many girls are producing their homemade films.

your point of view has no relevance to the discussion

**ir fácil** · 27-10-2009, 12:24 AM

oh i was talking about the pornography gray area thing.

ir fácil added 3 Minutes and 36 Seconds later...

hmm for every time you think about some other girl.. your girl is becoming another guy's fantasies

hope that guy isn't her extremely hot and way more eligible 'best guy friend'..

**Zeta Doradus** · 27-10-2009, 12:40 AM

Yes it is. After all, if you do not exercise control over your thoughts, it may become rampant and pleasuring self in the mind may become a fantasy you indulge in. These fantasies may grow to become even greater monsters - When you have an affair and it becomes reality. Such situations will definitely pop up in your mind, but it is your response that makes all the difference.

Banao · 27-10-2009, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ir fácil

oh i was talking about the pornography gray area thing.

ir fácil added 3 Minutes and 36 Seconds later...

hmm for every time you think about some other girl.. your girl is becoming another guy's fantasies

hope that guy isn't her extremely hot and way more eligible 'best guy friend'..

Well, to be honest in the realities of life we cannot dismiss this possiblity, unless we live in the ideal world or simply being self delusional.

So if i can accept the 'grey area' which is pornography, i will be have to extent my trust to this 'innocent fantasy'.

**faith14** · 27-10-2009, 01:36 AM

Interesting topic.

It is still considered as infidelity, a temporarily kind. haha. Human is attracted by beauty, and beauty is hard to resist-but if you are resolute enough, you can resist it. I think most people will have the so-called innocent fantasy once in their lives. haha.

Maybe all these can be categorised under grey area. No right or wrong. It is just a form of respect that we wanna give to our partners. =)