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Old 5th March 2009, 02:31 PM   #1 (permalink)
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ladies..some advice please..

i dont wanna post this to the r/s thread as my bf visit this forum too..so i was hoping that you gals could help me by giving me some advice..

me and my bf just started out..everything was fine at first..like normal..but just after 2 weeks..i found that we reali got nothing to tok about already.perhaps its because we used to tok everyday for long hours..and now..we are running out of things to tok about..

please give me some suggestions on what i should do.i dont want this to affect our r/s..
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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Why not try to create some distance for yourself. For example to do something without accompanied by your bf. And then you can talk with him about your enxperience with it.

It is terrible if you have no topic to talk with each other. You are lovers, right ?

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Old 5th March 2009, 02:55 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Re: ladies..some advice please..

You can try going out with a huge grp of friends. That will be more fun and lots of thing to talk abt, I suppose.

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Old 5th March 2009, 03:01 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Re: ladies..some advice please..

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Why not try to create some distance for yourself. For example to do something without accompanied by your bf. And then you can talk with him about your enxperience with it.

It is terrible if you have no topic to talk with each other. You are lovers, right ?
we dont really do much things together..just that we spend long hours almost everyday tokin to each other on msn..and the thing is my mum just found out that i have a bf..and she's somehow against it and starting to make things dificult for us...

its just really awkward that we are in a conversation and then both of us are stuck there.and my bf is not reali those kind that talks a lot either.. he's those kind that.. "ooo..ok..orh.." always giving me that kind of reply at times and making me stuck and not knowing how to continue with the conversation..sigh..

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You can try going out with a huge grp of friends. That will be more fun and lots of thing to talk abt, I suppose.

he has tried asking me out for supper and stuff with his friends..but because my parents are strict..i cant go out at nite. and i am kind of shy to be around his friends i guess.. my close group of friends are all gals....i think it be awkward if i ask him along when we go out..and he will be the only guy also?i dun wan to make him feel uneasy ...and i dun wan my friends to feel uneasy also..


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Old 5th March 2009, 03:17 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Originally Posted by poppypopgal View Post
we dont really do much things together..just that we spend long hours almost everyday tokin to each other on msn..and the thing is my mum just found out that i have a bf..and she's somehow against it and starting to make things dificult for us...

its just really awkward that we are in a conversation and then both of us are stuck there.and my bf is not reali those kind that talks a lot either.. he's those kind that.. "ooo..ok..orh.." always giving me that kind of reply at times and making me stuck and not knowing how to continue with the conversation..sigh..

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he has tried asking me out for supper and stuff with his friends..but because my parents are strict..i cant go out at nite. and i am kind of shy to be around his friends i guess.. my close group of friends are all gals....i think it be awkward if i ask him along when we go out..and he will be the only guy also?i dun wan to make him feel uneasy ...and i dun wan my friends to feel uneasy also..
I think it won't be awkward if there are sufficient exposure between your friends and bf? My bf is comfortable with my girl friends cos he always come and fetch us after class and have lunch together with us. But my friends are quite out-going so they talk a lot most of the time to entertain him, he doesn't need to talk much all the time.

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Old 5th March 2009, 04:09 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Originally Posted by jewlreya View Post
I think it won't be awkward if there are sufficient exposure between your friends and bf? My bf is comfortable with my girl friends cos he always come and fetch us after class and have lunch together with us. But my friends are quite out-going so they talk a lot most of the time to entertain him, he doesn't need to talk much all the time.


i wish my girl friends and boyfriends could get along too..well my girl friends are not exactly that outgoing as compared to yours i guess..they dont tok much when there are so called"outsiders" among us..

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

my bf is the same.

so, ill just push his buttons by doing OUTRAGOUS things until he comments. if he doesnt, after going abit too far for me, ill ask him.. so how? u ok with my limit?

if he's angry, but silent, then i say, tts y i ask u to open ur mouth and tell me things!

after awhile, i think he got it. we've been going strong for 1 year already... at first yea, we also ran out of things to talk.

then, i started us on new hobbies and stuff.. now we talk alot.

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Actually , you can start out by talking what you like and what you don't , ask him the same questions too . So that you guys can know the similarities and difference , then you can think of things that the two of you can do together .

Go out with his friends , you may feel shy but there is always a first time in everything right ? If you never try , how you know you that if you can get along with them ? That same to bringing him out with your girlfriends .

Hope everything will goes well for you (:

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

since u cant go out at nite.. go out in the afternoon.. maybe he can arrange an outing when he and his frens meet in the afternoon.. ive been with my bf for only 3 months.. sometimes we would have nothing to talk about as else.. just yesterday.. we went to eat at mac donalds and he just end up watching the tv there while we eat.. but after that we talk talk and stuff...

talk all the time is also quite sian..

just enjoy that fact that he is with you..

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Sometimes just being with someone without talking is ok.
Enjoy each others' company.
But by what you are saying...for msn conversations, maybe give yourselves a break.
Or do something together, like play a game. (careful of addiction though)

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

it is common, esp if u talk for long hrs over the fone everyday.

I felt that u both can still call each other daily, but maybe try to shorten the chat to abt 10 mins? U cld spend quality time even without talking much, cos sometimes maybe the guy is shy, or he just is not outspoken or expressive, although he luv u very much..

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Silence is not always a bad thing. If both of u are comfortable w each other, silence just signifies that either one has nth to share.

It's normal to feel tat way, but there are definitely topis to talk about. Like asking abt each other's day, planning the nxt date etc.

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

did u surface tis problem wit him ??

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

Originally Posted by princess-selina View Post
Actually , you can start out by talking what you like and what you don't , ask him the same questions too . So that you guys can know the similarities and difference , then you can think of things that the two of you can do together .

Go out with his friends , you may feel shy but there is always a first time in everything right ? If you never try , how you know you that if you can get along with them ? That same to bringing him out with your girlfriends .

Hope everything will goes well for you (:
yea..we did tok bt that before actually.. thanks..hope everything goes well for you too.

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Originally Posted by devon View Post
it is common, esp if u talk for long hrs over the fone everyday.

I felt that u both can still call each other daily, but maybe try to shorten the chat to abt 10 mins? U cld spend quality time even without talking much, cos sometimes maybe the guy is shy, or he just is not outspoken or expressive, although he luv u very much..


we seldom tok on the fone..what we did most is to tok on msn everyday..and webcam at times..cause we both spend long hours online..so we dun fone each other..but we still sms when we are not online.. actually we spend long hours together tokin daily ...maybe thats why we are running out of things to talk about..especially since we are both havin our holidays and there are not much that we can share with each other...

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did u surface tis problem wit him ??

yea..i did just this morning actually and all he said was that
" i guess we dont have to always talk? "


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Re: ladies..some advice please..

gal ah .. i tink e issue nw is tt he's kinda chill for e fact tt even u two nv tok .. he oso okay .. which is nt a gud sign lei.. either u find common topic to trigger him .. or else .. sooner or ltr .. things may nt turn out nice..

me n my guy facin tis prob nw.. n e reason for me nt wantin/dun feel tokin much is bcos i started to feel sian towards him alr .. it's like i m sick n tired o smthin tt dun pose any interest in me at all ..

i hope u two r not lidat cos it's reali unhealthy lei..

how long u both know each other b4 committin into tis r/s ?

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Originally Posted by cascade View Post
gal ah .. i tink e issue nw is tt he's kinda chill for e fact tt even u two nv tok .. he oso okay .. which is nt a gud sign lei.. either u find common topic to trigger him .. or else .. sooner or ltr .. things may nt turn out nice..

me n my guy facin tis prob nw.. n e reason for me nt wantin/dun feel tokin much is bcos i started to feel sian towards him alr .. it's like i m sick n tired o smthin tt dun pose any interest in me at all ..

i hope u two r not lidat cos it's reali unhealthy lei..

how long u both know each other b4 committin into tis r/s ?
you and your bf how long le?
i know its not a good sign ..thats why i m tryin to make things work.i dun wan us to end when we just started.. we onli noe each other for a few weeks actually b4 we commit into this r/s.

i m starting to think tt i m jinx in all my r/s lahh..haisss..
maybe i reali dunnoe how to keep a r/s going on and strong..
am feeling so depressed over this lahhs..haisss.. ;((

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Re: ladies..some advice please..

lol~ last time i had a 'bf' also liddat.
i find him boring.

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lol~ last time i had a 'bf' also liddat.
i find him boring.
"bf" ???

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a couple of my frnd is saying that maybe all my bf want is my body..
i really hope thats not what he's thinking.. is sex what all guys think about only??


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Originally Posted by poppypopgal View Post
"bf" ???

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a couple of my frnd is saying that maybe all my bf want is my body..
i really hope thats not what he's thinking.. is sex what all guys think about only??
how come? he very tiko?

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Originally Posted by ♥ Dyy View Post
how come? he very tiko?
till now no..perhaps we just started..but if he's really like this,i dun feel comfortable being with a guy that only wants my body and dumps me after that..

but thats what my guy frnd is saying..perhaps what he want is my body..and till nw he haven got it,thats why he's feeling sian..hais. ;( i hope not.

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