[chowychow]

Divorce him and fight for all your asset. If cannot then write to the press confirm Singaporeans will help.
Good Luck

[静如林]

男怕入错行, 女怕嫁错郎.

i'm sorry to hear of your plight, perhaps you might want to file for divorce.
it's a painful experience, but it's best for the kids and yourself on the long run.
based on your non-existance working experience and his infidelity, you have a strong case.

[mYRTLE]

if you can... go and learn a skill now, so you will be able to join the workforce if anything should happen.. jiay0u!!!!

[linger-ing]

Originally Posted by rainbi

If i were TS kid, i will not want my parents to divorce too.
no matter what happen i oso dun wan my parents to divorce.
please plan and sort it out with ur partner..

as a kid, u dun wish ya parents divorce...
but do u wish to see ur mum everyday living in stress and crying alone and ya dad not paying anything for ya daily usage?

linger-ing added 1 Minutes and 40 Seconds later...

watever u wanna do, pls do it discreetly... dun ever let ur husband knows tat u r trying to collect evidences of his affair... cos once he knows abt it... there is no way u can have the mthly alimony... this alimony is going to be very useful to ur kids and urself... cannot deny the fact tat u cannot even feed urself if u leave ur husband, how to feed ur kids... therefore, u have to plan and act accordingly...

[TopMark]

Try marriage counselling?

sometimes it's good to get professional's opinions.

[claraguigui]

Sorry to here that .
but then again ..

listen for advice first ?

then do the decision (:

[JAS1704]

I think if you can't stand it anymore,
just divorce your husband and find a job
to bring up your children.

[oinariomiya]

Personally I think it would be best to have a chat with all your children calmly when your husband is not around. Ask them for their opinions would they understand your current plight? do they agree with you divorcing? Because seriously its not only about you now, you have children too, you must think of your children and then listen to your heart if you can't forgive him or lost your love for him then I would suggest divorce, but first find out if he is really having an affair with someone else and take photos as evidence so that you can claim alimony, and did you guys have any black and white pact that he willg ive you the money? I think you need to calm yourself down first. I think the nasty behavior he is having against you is most probably stress ba... Because if you think about it, if you divorce he might want to take the custody of the children... So think thoroughly and weigh your pros and cons whether isit worth it still to stick with such a man for the sake of the children or not... Because I think if the children find out by themselves might be even bigger devastation that their father is having an affair outside...

[vios21]

It's a tough decision to make and given your background, maintaining your kids will be a great challenge. You'll need family support at this stage.

As for your husband, you should take the thumbdrive as evidence of infidelity and divorce him on that basis. You have a strong case for divorce, given you had a history of seperation as well.

May strength be with you.

[shypineapple]

It's never easy when you have a kid at stake.
hopefully the choice you made will be the right one.
go girl

[joann.sienna]

wth,
i empathize with you.
your life seems to be like a roller coaster.
it must have been a tough time for you.

whether or not to divorce,
it's all up to you.
we can't make a decision for you.

for the time-being,
keep your cool.
it's for your children's sake.