The only love story in my life.

**saveX** · 08-11-2009, 05:20 AM

This series of event happened two years ago, till today i remember every word and actions we exchanged. I hope to share this with a certain group of guys out there who are in the same situation like me before.

P/S : It might be quite long-winded, so decide for yourself if you wana finish reading the story.

I started working on a island within Singapore. It was the first day of work, as per normal routine we(a bunch of newcomers)
would have to take a tour around that island to get ourselves familiarize and understand what sort of services and facilities we have.

As the bore sets in, i noticed her(TC). Wow i thought, shes like a magnet pulling me to her.
As we were waiting for the lift, i intentionally blocked her and allowing the rest of the peeps waiting for the lift to go in first and as fate arranged, theres no space for us both.
Entering the next lift, i asked some casual questions and thankfully she entertained me, without hesitating i asked for her number and mentioned that it would be good to know more colleagues asap.
She gave it to me in a state of shock. Exiting the lift I went on with the tour and TC back to her work.

After a the initial phase of OJT, i was so exhausted that I couldn't call her. After this series of torture, my team had to volunteer a guy for a job in the evening, being the junior i volunteered without hesitations.
Than TC came along stating asking about the timing to gather later, GREAT, waving to her i told her i would be there too.
Later on we never chatted much as she was busy, after the event we went home together though.
We chatted again on the MRT, she complimented on my fav watch, which i was greatly surprised and surprised that we had the same taste in style too.

After that fateful day, we met for dinner and went home together again after night shift and i found out that she rarely volunteered for that event and i happened to be on it too!
Coincidentally, the MRT broke down(seriously), we were forced to take a bus home way longer than MRT but thats the whole point!
Other colleagues went home in their own way, as only we both were living in the Northside. We chatted alot, about ideals, family, social issues, hobbies and art. I felt a great deal of chemistry between us.

By next week we met up during work hours to have lunch accompanied by other colleagues.
But one Saturday, i decided to pluck up my courage and SMSed her if she wana meetup to go home after work because im in that area(bluff de lo) too.
She agreed! Along the way home I felt the chemistry between us growing so greatly something i had never experienced before!

Than one fateful day, using the some lousy excuse that i was in that area after my friend left me alone to meet his girlfriend i asked her if she wanted to meetup after work. (IF you are wondering, I took pains and extreme measures to find out about her schedule).

For some reasons i feel that she was so natural not like other girls who would put on a fake smile or wear makeup or not daring to speak up of their own ideals, shes the opposite of all that.
After meeting up, I suggested for a simple dinner at the food court, not saying out that i hated those stupid expensive & tasteless dining places, she agreed, which means that i was right.
What i meant is that, you could find out about a girl's character and attitude when you bring her to certain places.
We chatted very happily as i moved on to relationships stuffs, i confirmed it and I let my heart take for the next series of actions.

As we left the place and head towards MRT, i suggested going somewhere. Puzzled, she asked where, without uttering a word or so i grabbed her hand.
I was so EXCITED that she did not even resist a single inch, she did playfully tried to wriggle away, but i held on die die not letting go.
As we reached the top of the building, where stars showered above with a lovely atmosphere(btw it was at the top of vivo), we hugged without hesitation and i simply whispered "I love you" into her ears and she whispered back "I love you too".
We hugged for 15minutes, till this date i remembered her whispering "could i not let go? This is the first time ever that a guy is hugging me so sensually"

We had such a good time after that fateful day, the more we know of each other the more i wanted to hold on forever not letting go.
We enjoyed each other's company alot, also we had an extreme sense of understanding
that i would know exactly what shes looking for when shes pacing up and down during work and she knows how i feel at certain situations which greatly surprised me! We were such a sweet couple.

But alas, good times do not last. I had to serve my NS. For some reason I started thinking about our relationship rationally, we came from different backgrounds and she was from a richer family background, having a higher education level her parents had high expectations of her and her boyfriend.
I also realized that she would be moving onto a whole new world to university life while I would have no time for her and imagine all the guys she will get to know.

I decided to breakup while our relationship was still in good status. She was confused and upset about my decision and i did not explain much to her as i hope that she would forget about me and move on to her new life as i did not want to be a drag and a burden to her.
Hoping that one day she would realize my rationale and enjoy her life ahead of her.

Looking back, did i made the wrong decision based on my selfish conclusions? But no matter what, i've made the decision hoping that she would have a better life and better partner.
I somewhat regretted, even though it was 2years ago i still think about her and our times together often on the way home or when i see someone who resembles her in the crowd and a song named 本来.
I hope that my story wakes up those guys who are in the same situation as me to not give up and persevere on for your love ones and to appreciate every moment of it.

**xiinn** · 09-11-2009, 09:40 AM

awww... didn't you two stay in contact? you should have told her why and not left her into such a situation.

**constanceling** · 09-11-2009, 09:53 AM

I somewhat regretted, even though it was 2years ago i still think about her and our times together often on the way home or when i see someone who resembles her in the crowd and a song named 本来.

is a song tat has meaning for me too..

**Wolfyyy** · 09-11-2009, 10:37 AM

I totally detest the decision made by TS.

1) We're talking about a relationship. Decisions that are to be made in regards to a relationship should be made by two person instead of one individual. It is extremely selfish of a person if he/she is to make a decision based on his/her own beliefs without consulting the other. Why? Your perception of "right" might not be your partner's perception of "right". You didn't give your partner a chance to compromise and that is totally wrong.

2) Not explaining your course of action clearly. Its just unfair for your partner, really. Putting yourself in your partner's shoe will definately make you realise how much pain you are causing.

3) And why do people always assume that he/she " will definately find someone better in the future? ". I've seen cases whereby some of the people around are so traumatized about their partners leaving them abruptly, that they could not think sanely for at least 3 years or so for the most of extreme ones. Making a decision like this might not necessarily guide your partner to a better life in the future. In fact, your decision might be the cause of sending him/her right down the drain, and their perspective of the opposite gender to be cruel, unreasonable and etc. Their trust in the opposite gender has been reduced, making it even harder for him/her to really settle down in a relationship in the future.

We're all grown ups now. We shouldn't base judgement on assumptions that we "think" someone else would be happy because of us. We need to get the facts right because assumptions are never 100% right.

**Rose2** · 09-11-2009, 10:58 AM

i do not what to say,love her, be toghter, do not love her, let her go .not that hard.

**-Rokugatsu-** · 09-11-2009, 11:15 AM

You should have discuss with her before making any decision, sometimes breaking up without knowing much of the reason is more painful than normal break up.

But what is over is over, hopefully she has already move on and you too, don't live in the past anymore yeah

**yoohoney** · 09-11-2009, 11:19 AM

two years has gone............

how should you remeber your exchanged wordssss

seems you really love her

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**loveyunki** · 09-11-2009, 04:49 PM

how is she now? Is she in another r/s now? Anyway, what for regretting? Its gone, unless there's a chance to be together again

**Haruhi 21** · 10-11-2009, 09:54 PM

aaww so sad....

**saveX** · 16-11-2009, 12:39 AM

Hi sorry for the late reply guys, thanks for reading this and thx for the concern.

My purpose is only to share this particular experience, i dun expect her to appear before me again as she dosent frequent any forums and i think we couldnt be back tgthr, as times have changed and so have we, we can only hope that the change is for the best and history won't repeat itself on me or her or on anyone else.

I have seriously learned something from this relationship, sharing this with the guys, never breakup so easily and never make a one-sided decision. Give yourself time, maybe suggest a few weeks to cool down, find some new girls to go out with. See for yourself if your heart is still with her or this new girl when you are out dating.

The song had a great meaning because that was the first song she ever sang to me at kbox and it was so reminiscing when i heard it again on the radio. Also this song was playing at the cafe on the day we brokeup.

I still checkout her blog, to make sure shes doing well and if shes down i would post something to cheer up as an anonymous poster. I think thats all I can do rather than contacting her and reminding her of the sad past. Since we both had not been in a relationship after we broke up.

**Lycheemochi** · 19-11-2009, 01:50 AM

if you really loved her and enjoyed her company, you'd have ignored those differences of you and her, hoping she'll, too. personally i think, if you ain't selfish, and is capable of leaving her, you don't love her.

**holysniper** · 25-11-2009, 08:08 PM

why did u do that...

**daplate** · 03-12-2009, 08:53 PM

you should just go back with her (:

Stuoid_Panda · 04-12-2009, 01:04 AM

that why nvr regret ur decision..
something u do think abt ur past...but the decision u make make u stronger..

**opaljin26** · 12-12-2009, 04:53 AM

wow!!! gets me all teary eyed.. memories memories memories.....

**saveX** · 17-12-2009, 11:42 AM

Personally in this situation i feel frustrated, but thinking back i have made this decision based on the social factors in present times. It's all in the past, I still keep track of her blogs and shes having a good life, instead of sticking around with me.

One thing that i learned from the people around meafter these few years is that -
being rational and romantic and being brave in relationships, contradicts alot.

So decisions are really based on personal and environmental factors, if you wre in my shoes you would have acted differently, but you are not, so i hope the stuffs i wrote could enhance or guide someone else when they are in the same situation, and the replies by above members could be a clue or answer to your quetstion too.

All the best everyone, Cheers!

**spytheman** · 17-12-2009, 11:28 PM

Dear ts ...I dunno you you dunno me...but i srsly think you shld just garner the courage and try talking to her..jus start wif a hi and how's life?is that too difficult?I mean...whether you have really forgotten her or not...I think you still owe her an explanation..if u have told her already..give her a more detailed explaination..what u felt and the rational..i mean..still can be gd friend uh? Moreover..from your post..I speculate tt u didint really get over with it..I maybe wrong..but instead of being annonymous poster in her blog..why not show that you still care for her as a friend? Dun live with regrets ...I wish you all the best =/. I also dunno why I suddenly so eng and post my thoughts....just feel wasted for you I think..hope to listen gd news from you :d

**Dewrian** · 17-12-2009, 11:42 PM

Ur logic behind ur actions were noble. However, if u had chosen a different approach such as to give urself the time to improve, things might not have ended the way it ended. Who she might encounter in university wouldnt have mattered unless u feel that u are unable to rise to the occasion of having a rival who is more highly qualified than u. However, is the fear of competition and/or the possibility of a burden to her the true reason behind the breakup? Is inferiority complex not a main factor? If it indeed is a main factor, I'd say that u care more about urself than ur former gf and thus ur feeling sorry becos u realised u cannot have the best of both worlds. Sorry to say this but sometimes if u wanna get things done the way u feel is right, u just gotta pluck up some courage and face ur fears head on for w/o doing these, u'll never see the light to ur problems.

**kismet** · 19-12-2009, 05:48 PM

guess everyone has their own approach towards their relationship

**OddEye** · 25-12-2009, 10:50 PM

I think TS has some inferiority complex towards her that's why left her. If TS instead uses this inferiority as motivation to to work harder, I am sure this relationship will last much longer