Help Please advice me on what to do :(

**jwng** · 11-09-2009, 12:57 AM

My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, but we were only together for 1 week. It can't really be called a relationship cos she told me she only had infatuation towards me, not love. So i tried to hate her for toying with my feelings, but no matter how much i try i still could not bring myself to hate her. The worst thing is, i actually still kind of like her up till now...i think...

However there's this girl that appeared in my life recently & i thought to myself, that this girl definitely has the potential to make me fall for her. But i don't think i like her yet, since i only know her for few days. It's just, we hit it off pretty well & i kinda see the potential of things advancing to the next level.

But sometimes i'll still miss my ex-gf...

The reason why i'm trying to hold back my feelings now is because it'll be unfair to that girl if i woo her but in my heart there's still my ex.

I know you guys will tell me to forget my ex but what about now, the present? Do i still be good friends with that girl & risk having her fall for me but i won't be able to give her my love totally, or do i stop contacting that girl? Or...any other suggestions? I'm really confused now

**Lambo_san** · 11-09-2009, 01:38 AM

why you post 2 same threads?

time will heal your wound..
give you some time to do it,
then tell the girl you like her...

**bluezben** · 11-09-2009, 01:40 AM

dude.. i suggest u take a break.. stay normal with both girls.. calm urself down first.. then slowly take time to think through who do you love.. jus don do things out of impulse.. take it easy..

**Iwan Huang** · 11-09-2009, 01:56 AM

better find another new one

**Lex.limhwee** · 11-09-2009, 02:35 AM

Stay friend with the girl until you have sort out your thoughts, thats the best way to prevent you from hurting the new girl you know ..

**sky99** · 11-09-2009, 01:30 PM

Just continue to be good friend with the girl..

and stop contacting ur ex.

slowly, you will forget her

**Squirrel<3Nuts** · 11-09-2009, 01:36 PM

Don't contact ur ex le. Is she a lady who you can marry next time? Is she worthy? If not, say bye bye & be friends with the current one.

**BustyMaiden** · 11-09-2009, 01:54 PM

No it wasn't infatuation. She probably lost a bet and had to be your girl for one week, which was hell for her. So don't get too upset, because you are just another loser. True men are born from losers. I was a loser too, just keep chasing skirts long enough and you will find that girls are the ones who will lose out in a relationship the moment you understand the fact that you must never pamper your girl too much or she will take you for granted. Golden Rule : Never woo girls, find ways to make them woo you and keep it that way. Cuz girls are just another warm nice place for you to park your little brother.

**Zion** · 11-09-2009, 02:08 PM

You dont need to woo the girl for the sake of she likes you. Why not jus let it be until oneday you know who you really love then get attached or start wooin that person? hahas.

**Arche** · 11-09-2009, 02:20 PM

hey fella dont be too upset yea..time will heal your wound in no time as for now take a break dont get into another relationship too quickly..give yourself sometime to think it through..imagine u dating with that girl and in the end u feel that shes not the right one for u..u will end up breaking her heart just like how ur ex break urs..

**Stanstan** · 11-09-2009, 02:33 PM

Have a break, have a kit kat.. its only 2months... you need time

**claraguigui** · 11-09-2009, 03:53 PM

Move on .

Like Stanstan said . have a break

**enigmacolossus** · 11-09-2009, 04:16 PM

Starting making dates with either one of your hands.

**SiBurns** · 11-09-2009, 04:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BustyMaiden

No it wasn't infatuation. She probably lost a bet and had to be your girl for one week, which was hell for her. So don't get too upset, because you are just another loser. True men are born from losers. I was a loser too, just keep chasing skirts long enough and you will find that girls are the ones who will lose out in a relationship the moment you understand the fact that you must never pamper your girl too much or she will take you for granted. Golden Rule : Never woo girls, find ways to make them woo you and keep it that way. Cuz girls are just another warm nice place for you to park your little brother.

jwng, BustyMaiden may sound mature but he has an interesting point.

Anyway, you fall in Love too easy. Not good.
Your old enough to control your feelings, be a man for it.

tskk .. =..="

**170S** · 11-09-2009, 04:27 PM

i have encounter the same scenario as you, together for less then 1 week and my ex just dump me saying i am her rebound. It's like toying my feeling, really hate her to the core. But nevermind, just move on. Get along with the current girl and see how far you 2 can develop

Have a kit kat : )

**jwng** · 13-09-2009, 01:02 AM

Hey guys! Thanks for the advice! Sorry for posting duplicate threads cos sgc was lagging when i was posting

Yup, i've decided to forget my ex but at the same time, don't get so close with the new girl first. I won't wanna hurt an innocent girl like how my ex hurt me! Maybe when i've totally forgotten my ex then i might consider being with the new girl provided that she's the one i really like/love.

Really happy to see all the advice, but once again sorry for double-posting a thread

**finaldust** · 13-09-2009, 01:07 AM

just be friends first bah dont jump into another relationship straight away think carefully wat u wan or else later end up harm another gal

**Suzaku_FJ** · 13-09-2009, 01:08 AM

a song for you. =]

Little change of the heart, little light in the dark,
Little hope that you just might find your way out of here.
Cause you've been hiding for days, wasted and wasting away,
But I got a little hope today you'll face your fears.

Yea I know it's not easy, I know it's hard,
Follow the lights to this city.

Get up and go
Take a chance and be strong,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
Don't look back just go.
Take a breath move along,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
You could spend your whole life holding on.

Believe the tunnel can end, believe your body can mend,
Yea I know you could make it through cause I believe in you.
So lets go put up a fight, lets go make everything alright,
Go on and take a shot go give it all you got.

Oh yea I know it's not easy, I know that it's hard,
Know that it's not always pretty.

Get up and go
Take a chance and be strong,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
Don't look back just go.
Take a breath move along,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
You could spend your whole life holding on.

Don't wanna wake up to the telephone ring,
Are you sitting down I need to tell you something,
Enough is enough you can stop waiting to breath,
And don't wait up for me.

Get up and go,
Take a chance and be strong,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on.
Don't look back just go,
Take a breath move along,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on.

Get up and go, take a chance and be strong,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
Don't look back just go.
Take a breath move along,
Or you could spend your whole life holding on,
You could spend your whole life holding on.

Don't spend your whole life holding on.

"Go" by Boys like girls. meaningful song

**Taobaospree-sg** · 14-09-2009, 05:51 PM

i wont ask u to forget the ex.
everyone have a truly madly love in their heart and will never forget.
like me, 3years dy, pat toh with another 3 gals, yet i'm still unable to forget my 1st love.
though i know both of us already impossible to recover.
try to put the ex-love feeling to the gal, though it is not fair to her. but she will happy for everything u do for her. But please make sure she isnt your spare tayar , u jus need time to recover from the ex.

**winsor** · 14-09-2009, 10:12 PM

yea, dont force yourself to hate the girl, will only make it worse off.