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Old 23rd September 2009, 05:15 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Being related by blood is such a pain.

It's so irritating. My mother's side of the family is super close (I don't know why), and everytime there's something, be it a birthday or ching ming or whatever, we just HAVE to go to my auntie's house. And this auntie has a horrible character - she's so RUDE, not polite at all, and she probably thinks that children should be those 'guai qiao' kind and all...

I'm not very social and some more I've never felt comfortable when I go there because she's so what about me, and the next youngest in the family is my brother and he doesn't talk to me. So when I go there I have to go sit quietly and read my book, because I have no one to play with, and it's so lonely there. So I grew up doing that.

And my stomach is very sensitive, and what's more I go there add to the stress only, so a few days ago I was studying for my science practical and I was trying to memorise all the stuff plus it was past my usual dinnertime (like I said my stomach sensitive) and I just hated being there so I tried to put on my stone face as I always do to save myself from situations I don't like.

So turned out I didn't have appetite and I was trying to eat with my stone face, and then that stupid aunt started talking about how I lacked attention, how spoiled I was and purposely spoke to my mother in Cantonese (I can't understand) and she PURPOSELY say the word 'attention' in English. Wtf it's all because of her and all my other bloody relatives that I can't eat. If I ate with my friends, then it wouldn't be a problem...

I can't stand this family. And what's more, we have to go to the gathering again three weeks later. I don't want to go. I thought of running away or killing myself, but I don't want this to be the cause of a bad relationship between me and my family (direct, excl relatives) and I also have stuff I want to do...

Some of you might say that it's too exaggerating to want to take my life for something like this. Wrong. It's: I hate going there so much that I would rather die than go. Get it?

And it’s sort of like a ‘tradition’, just cannot say don’t want go. And some more my mother is like a mouse, scared of everyone and everything then repeat those insults to me. Like after we got home then she glared at me and said ‘you’re really a spoiled brat’.

She’s the one who’s been babying me, even though I told her many times, she just said that it’s my imagination.

Sigh.

It’s always my brother who fits in, my brother who gets everything he wants, I’m always the stupid spoiled girl who can’t do anything right…

Ah wait. That's a bit out of point already. Zong zhi being related by blood is a pain.

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Old 23rd September 2009, 05:28 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

There are always friends aren't there? : )
CHEER UP!!!

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Old 23rd September 2009, 05:44 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

Well you can't choose your relatives can't you?

To want to commit suicide bcos of not wanting to go, thats not right. Think of the hurt you will bring to your love ones.

Talk to your mother that you do not wish to go and that you rather stay at home to study for the coming exams.

Anyway going there is only like a couple of hrs, what wont kill you, will only make you stronger.

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I would slap that auntie if i were you. However that is just my nature plus i understand cantonese so i would know what she is talking bad about me. Don't learn from me. @.@ Lol.

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Oh my Gosh, gal, get socialise, there is no blood thicker than related blood ya. Uncles and aunties are all like this one, you cannot change them, so why not you change yourself. I know it is hard, same to me, when i was young, i dun like to go visit relative, even in CNY, but as i grew older, i learn to respect them, no matter what they said about you, I can ensure you that there is a LOVE in there ya.

Just open up yourself, they are not tiger, old peoples like young gal like you to ask them question, right or wrong answer, nevermind, just ask, and learn abit from them, just like, how aunty and uncle get to know each other, what does ching ming rep and all those stuffs, be a good listening and no sooner, they will be hugging you.

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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

Originally Posted by PenalCramp View Post
There are always friends aren't there? : )
CHEER UP!!!
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Well you can't choose your relatives can't you?

To want to commit suicide bcos of not wanting to go, thats not right. Think of the hurt you will bring to your love ones.

Talk to your mother that you do not wish to go and that you rather stay at home to study for the coming exams.

Anyway going there is only like a couple of hrs, what wont kill you, will only make you stronger.

Be Strong!
Thanks, your words are really very inspirational. Though I don't think that will work (since I don't really study ><), and usually I have to stay there for five hours plus... But I find what you said very meaningful. Thank you (:

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I would slap that auntie if i were you. However that is just my nature plus i understand cantonese so i would know what she is talking bad about me. Don't learn from me. @.@ Lol.
Lol, if only you were there then I wouldn't be so lonely o_o You sound like someone I could get along with. Lol.

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Old 23rd September 2009, 05:55 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

if my auntie say something like this i think they will really kena some back fire thing from me ,not i disrespect them but if i giv u the respect u shuld get i shuld get the same thing, anyway cheer up


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Old 23rd September 2009, 06:03 PM   #8 (permalink)
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i can understand ur pain

my family relatives even say my friends were bad influence on me (they were from decent backgrounds)....they force me to socialise with only my cousin (and told me outsiders shldnt be part of my inner circle i.e. my childhood friends...the thing was my cousin didnt have much friends either so he was sorta the 'role model child') [something like ur brother, i was compared to my cousin everything...i kinda lived in his shadow despite being the same age]

just like ur case, my aunt spoke in malay to my mum to badmouth me...i can understand bit of her malay so i know a little what she talking about...my mother is also scared one....she dun dare quarrel with her relatives...lemme guess, ur grandparents are not longer around, and that that aunt probably took care of ur mum in a way and was sorta of the next authority aft ur grandparents in the family?

i know how it feels to be misunderstood bcoz not many ppl fall into such circumstances and usually others would say like 'blood is thicker than water', 'try to get along'....it's very very hard in my opinion; once before, i ran out of money (almost) and i had to ask my relatives and my aunt say she will charge interest for such thing bcuz family and money are different matters altogether....talk about the thickness of blood; water can be rich and saturated at times too =.=

sorry if i offended anyone; i'd like to just express my point of view here...beforehand, i used to think i was the only one who was going thru such scenarios and be an attention-seeker whenever i complained abt such things....as what some previous posters have said, friends are important too...they'll listen to ur complains and after u pour everything out, u will feel a lot fresher and happier

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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

Originally Posted by cherrystarxx View Post
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Thanks, your words are really very inspirational. Though I don't think that will work (since I don't really study ><), and usually I have to stay there for five hours plus... But I find what you said very meaningful. Thank you (:



Lol, if only you were there then I wouldn't be so lonely o_o You sound like someone I could get along with. Lol.
Hey i don't mind being your friend ya know.
Why do people come SGC? To make friends, duh. =x
Take a look around in this forum. There are a lot of friendly people who are willing to help. Cheer up.

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Old 23rd September 2009, 06:14 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

Darkhonour: Yeah, but the whole family is still like that, just that her tongue is more poisonous. Yeah I agree… Thanks for sharing

Crystal- haha yeah thanks

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Originally Posted by PenalCramp View Post
There are always friends aren't there? : )
CHEER UP!!!
yeah..

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Re: Being related by blood is such a pain.

simply bo chap them let them do whatever they want dun give them any expression lo.. soon they wouldnt be bothering you liao..

last time , my uncle used to scold me for everything.. Some more he scold behind my father's back. ( it's sort of revenge, my father eldest ma, he scold my uncle, cause he always waste money buying junkS)

then one day i just ignore him. he become fiercer, i was very scare liao(pri 4 or 5) but i told myself cannot let him bully anymore so i continue ignoring hm.. moonths later , i won~
now he still try to scold me, but i will just talk back..

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Firstly..try to get along like understand them first..unless they are really Gone Case..at most when your mother ask you to go their house again..simply tell your mother how you feel towards them(i was showing my mum the pissed off look face)..it helped me before..Same situation with you last time when i was 15..

Then weeks later my auntie became friendly with me..because my mum told her about what i felt about her..so slowly by slowly she understands me and i understand her..So iyeah..its good~!


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Scold her ' DIAM LEH'
talk back to her..

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seriously ur aunt is fcked up.

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Tell ur mother you die die dont want go..

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If it's me, i won't go to her house at all, no matter what events. Your mom will probably nag at you, but after a few times, she will give up calling you along. Your auntie is probably yearning for this kinda events so she can vent her whatever fustrations on young ppl. If it's me, i won't even go near her.

So what if you all are related by blood? It's your life. Do whatever you want.

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I would just ignore. Sometimes opening your mouth would get you into trouble

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If it's me, i won't go to her house at all, no matter what events. Your mom will probably nag at you, but after a few times, she will give up calling you along. Your auntie is probably yearning for this kinda events so she can vent her whatever fustrations on young ppl. If it's me, i won't even go near her.

So what if you all are related by blood? It's your life. Do whatever you want.
Loled at your display pic xD If only it was as simple as that... The problem is that it's a family event, so everyone will hate me. Maybe I should do it, though. I like your answer (:

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hmmmms. control your emotion, to not always give the stone face?

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