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Old 14th May 2010, 05:49 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Relatives, rather not have them!

Do u have relatives that bothers your parents? They only come to you when they are in need of cash/ down. They usually will sound pathetic and pitiful.

If they are in good hands, probably leading their own lifestyle - splurging on others and looking good.

These are the relatives I have. Something that I am not proud of since I was a kid. Throughout the years, saw them knocking on our doors to ask for some pennies. Followed by death of each grandparent and yet they can't spare a cent on funeral preparation. This is indeed shameful.

I would think it is the last case of connection. Recently, I overheard wanted a loan from one uncle. Next thing is my softhearted family assisted in other manners and yet was taken for granted AGAIN.

Why would they think we have the financial ability to assist? Why wouldn't we are in financial debts too?

Im so upset.

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Old 14th May 2010, 05:56 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

I think everyone do know, relative is not as good as friend, really -.-"

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its indeed upsetting. now i am watching my parents arguing over them.

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

I think your relative treat your parent as a charity org OR ATM


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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

Inhumane

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

I think you are not the only family that is facing such problems..

Even my own family is one of the victim

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Old 15th May 2010, 01:30 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

hm... I think I belong to the lucky category, no relatives ever come to us for money.

In fact none of my relatives ever go to each other for money at all even though there is one family which is significantly wealthier - Thing is, that wealthier family always help the rest of the families out without a single question when we are in need.
My entire family tree have a pretty good bond I guess.
And maybe I should point out that, in the HDB we stay in, 4 families, we stay in one straight row across, side by side with each other, the other families stay no further than 2 MRT stops away ^^
But there is no such thing as a perfect family tree of course, we do have a one particular family with a bit of problem... However the only problem they have is that they might treat some of us as invisible from time to time, some kinda family mood swing I think >.<

Anyway enough of my family... in your case, quite common I guess. Like those Taiwan drama show, the lin and lee are relatives, but they jump at each other's throat all the time...
I think just leave it to your parents to handle, when kids intervene, the relatives will only have an excuse to say "Your children no manner!"

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I think your relatives behave like ''PLASTICS''

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

They treat ur parents like ATM, keep redraw money without paying. U parents also cannot reject them, since they are ur relatives, either help them or watch them die.

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

I have a relative who said this before " Got money got brother. No money, who cares who you are?"

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I have a relative who said this before " Got money got brother. No money, who cares who you are?"
have to agree man..
while there are definitely those are willing to help you in times of need..
if you repeatedly approach them for such matters.. even the most patient of friends will be worn down..
ultimately they will be forced to rethink about the relationship between you..

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

wah I know this is a common problem in families. My family is never like that.
I'm not mocking you guys but seriously I feel sorry for you guys... Do your relatives have jobs? Do they gain their own money? (or whatever my english is bad)

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My relative also like that. Keep asking my mum for money -.-

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Re: Relatives, rather not have them!

this is nothing new to me.
my uncle has been taking from my family since a really long time ago.
my brother and i grew up asking my mom,
why does daddy keep giving them money?
worse still, quite a few years ago,
my uncle borrowed one of our cars..
and its still with them till this day.
its not like i'm being stingy,
but there's a limit to everything.
why does my dad have to help to support your family?
its your responsibility not his.
its not as if my dad doesn't have to work for money.
their house still got like 2 or 3 flat screen tv,
still dare to say no money.
your kids still can show off,
got new hp or psp.
seriously,
if that's what you call poor,
i really have nothing to say.

but on the other hand,
not all are like that,
there's still the ones who dote on me very much,
so oh well.
there's always good and bad in life.

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My uncle has been unemployed for a decade, i am not exaggerating. he has 4 children, 2 of which are adults already. My dad and grandparents have been supporting his family throughout these years, by giving him a 'salary'. My mum will occasionally argue with my dad over this issue. My mum and I both feel that my uncle is an able-bodied, healthy man. Surely he can get a job SOMEHOW. But we have come to realize that he is just plain lazy. The ironic thing is they live a comfortable lifestyle, daughter is now attending university, they have a car, a flat, and no financial difficulties at all. But it's very hard for us to intervene in my dad's business, how he chooses to use his money. He believes that my uncle is his brother, and he has the obligation to help him.

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Learn how to say NO.

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I don't have relatives who ask my parents for $$$ and I know that I do NOT have the rights to say this... ... seriously, I hate this kind of relatives who always ask for $$$ .I also agree that there's a limit to everything .But there's nth that we can do unless we say NO... ...

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its such a shame , really.

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its such a shame , really.
Indeed it's a shame..You are their best relatives if you give the money but their worst when time you ask them to pay you back...That's why the best for me if to say NO.

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Well, relative is not up to us to choose but there's also such relative around. You have no choice but to accept the fact that, they are ur relative! Try to ask ur parents to move house and keep a distance from them???

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