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Old 18th April 2008, 11:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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serious topic!!! :(

one. WHY DO PPL BECOME LES OR GAY?
two. was it emotional hurt or physical hurt that make them choose this decision.
three. isit really that fun? o.O

im not being sick
im jus stating the facts that i dunno anything about this kinda stuff

four. WHAT ARE THE DANGERS OF BECOMING ONE?

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Old 19th April 2008, 01:03 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

I am not les so I dunno how to answer ur question.. but I think some people do become les/gay because they were emotionally hurt by someone from the opposite sex.

Not sure if it's because it's fun or what.. dunno?

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Old 19th April 2008, 09:49 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

it could be their hormone probs.

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Old 19th April 2008, 10:00 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

guess some might turn les/gay coz got hurt by opposite party..these emotion can be controlled... some people did say it's like hormone...guess if that is it...then can't control...dunnoooo

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

My friend became a les because she felt that she wants to be the one protecting others, not getting protected.

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Old 19th April 2008, 11:57 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

Hmmmmmm....

This is a tough issue to address...

Some schools of thought believe that some pple are born in to it cos of hormonal imbalance and stuff.. others believe that it is a result of emotional scarring...

Either way, if they are not hurting anyone, then it should be up to them to choose their own lifestyle

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

I can answer to 4. That person if found out will definitely get discrimination no matter how open minded the countries are. Also if they do have sex partners they are also in risk of stds.

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

some became les or gay without knowing it either.. it's their hormones to blame

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Old 22nd April 2008, 11:56 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

aww .
this is really complicated.

i see no wrong in gays/les/bi

from what i know...
some stupid , playful ahlians like to have les partner .
i think thats for fun only .

and i'm pretty sure that les/gays/bi are minorities .{ in local}
bcos people here just cant accept them .

i asked my mum about this topic .
she said she dont mind people who are gays/les/bi .
but she will mind if her own child is one ...

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Old 24th April 2008, 12:11 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

well, maybe their feelings canot be controlled?

I have some les/bi friends.

But their relatioship last for years. o.O

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Old 24th April 2008, 03:17 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

hmm .. they sense mre sercure for the same sex?! .. i have a few pairs around miie .. they wont make miie feel uncomfortable .. but instead , they also wont make miie feel like .. im one of them .. lols.. and gay .. i don kne why either .. LOL! .. aniwae , i cant stand gay .. ahahs.. their pattern jus too .. niang la.. XD .. no offence =)

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Old 24th April 2008, 12:08 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

From what i studied in Social psychology, there's some kind of differences in the brain structures of those who are homosexuals however it is unsure whether its the differences that causes the homosexuality or whether homosexuality causes the differences in the brain structure. Some studies also suggest that homosexuals have chemical imbalances in them that cause this orientation. Read More

The causes could be environmental rather than nature...

1. They have been emotionally, mentally and psychologically hurt by the opposite sex
2. Childhood sexual abuse that cause them to lose trust and faith in opposite sex
3. Like anyone, they have tried to conform with society and dated opposite sex only to find that they dun get that attracted to those, but are quite turned on by same sex.
4. Exposure to pornography or media that portrays homosexuals

Personally i see homosexuality as a lifestyle/sex preference. Homosexuality actually happened in older times among Greeks and other races. So it cannot be some kind of Nature mutated syndrome new to humankind. I guess lesbians are still easier to accept than gays although not all gays are so 'niang niang' de. Some gays actually have great bodies and seem quite masculine. Just like some lesbians dressed up like tomboys and seem more aggressive, well other lesbians are just as feminine as normal females.

I used to know a friend who hasn't been a lesbian until in her upper sec sch days. She used to like guys but she didn't get any headway or success with guys. And her family background has been bad too - alot of domestic abuse and when i knew her, she was volatile and could easily self-mutilate herself whenever she felt down or angry or sad. Haiz

I don't have prejudice against homosexuals - they are humans too but just that they are quite different. Actually i think to some extent, we do admire or even can be attracted to people of same sex. Like saying 'That girl looks very pretty.' But its quite common right?

I think a person will progress towards homosexuality when she/he begins to really take a romantic interest in a person of same sex. Like begin to want to do the couple stuffs with same sex.

However i believe that there's always a way to help those homosexuals IF they want to integrate back into the mainstream. There are psychotherapies to help those sexually abused people and other people with issues to move away from this orientation.

If u believe that u r becoming homosexual, do not panic. Keep a journal and write down any thoughts, feelings u have whenever u have inclination to that. It may be juz an innocent infatuation (like our crush on a pretty talented actress). As long as that does not prolong over weeks and u find that u lose interest in opposite sex and more interest in same sex. If that happens, i suggest u go for counselling help. =)

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

That's a good source of information provided. Thanks, Artemis86.

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

ermm someone told miie this ans: "AIya its for fun de. when i've had enough fun den i'll b bk to wad i use to be lor.'' well, so thr r ppl out thr doing all this jus for fun, try it out and experience. ^_^

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

Following the "trend", peer influences, fun, etc etc.
Ultimately, if majority of the people in the world becomes a les/gay, then isn't it such a pity?
No more babies, no more healthy family background,.....

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

Originally Posted by IRENE :D View Post
one. WHY DO PPL BECOME LES OR GAY?
two. was it emotional hurt or physical hurt that make them choose this decision.
three. isit really that fun? o.O

im not being sick
im jus stating the facts that i dunno anything about this kinda stuff

four. WHAT ARE THE DANGERS OF BECOMING ONE?

hahah.
Maybe they just can't find someone of the opposite gender to know them so well like the same gender?

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

I think this is a nurture or nature issue.

And well i believe both have a reason to it. I have several frenz who prefer to date people of the other gender which to them is perfectly ok.
The reason is due to their surroundings where they are expose to and for some it is just the way they are. I have a fren who tried liking gals...but after years of trying he just gave up and said he prefer guys over gals in the end...

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

Originally Posted by BiBi View Post
ermm someone told miie this ans: "AIya its for fun de. when i've had enough fun den i'll b bk to wad i use to be lor.'' well, so thr r ppl out thr doing all this jus for fun, try it out and experience. ^_^


that's sad. Imagine the one she's with is serious in looking for a secure relationship. She is so gonna break her heart.

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Old 26th April 2008, 09:10 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Re: serious topic!!! :(

hahaha thanks for the replies and answers
they give me a better idea now.
seriously.
and artemis WOW!
loong info ya?
read it thru liao le
and yepp i agree.
*THANK GOD IM NOT ONE*
:D

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Re: serious topic!!! :(

Originally Posted by By Paul Cameron, Ph. D.
Occasionally you may read about a scientific study that suggests that homosexuality is an inherited tendency, but such studies have usually been discounted after careful scrutiny or attempts at replication. No one has found a single heredible genetic, hormonal or physical difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals - at least none that is replicable. (9, 12) While the absence of such a discovery doesn't prove at inherited sexual tendencies aren't possible, it suggests that none has been found because none exists.


What causes homosexual desire?

If homosexual impulses are not inherited, what kinds of influences do cause strong homosexual desires? No one answer is acceptable to all researchers in the field. Important factors, however, seem to fall into four categories. As with so many other odd sexual proclivities, males appear especially susceptible:

1. Homosexual experience:

any homosexual experience in childhood, especially if it is a first sexual experience or with an adult
any homosexual contact with an adult, particularly with a relative or authority figure (in a random survey, 5% of adult homosexuals vs 0.8% of heterosexuals reported childhood sexual involvements with elementary or secondary school teachers (5).
2. Family abnormality, including the following:

a dominant, possessive, or rejecting mother
an absent, distant, or rejecting father
a parent with homosexual proclivities, particularly one who molests a child of the same sex
a sibling with homosexual tendencies, particularly one who molests a brother or sister
the lack of a religious home environment
divorce, which often leads to sexual problems for both the children and the adults
parents who model unconventional sex roles
condoning homosexuality as a legitimate lifestyle– welcoming homosexuals (e.g., co-workers, friends) into the family circle
3. Unusual sexual experience, particularly in early childhood:

precocious or excessive masturbation
exposure to pornography in childhood
depersonalized sex (e.g., group sex, sex with animals)
or girls, sexual interaction with adult males
4. Cultural influences:

a visible and socially approved homosexual sub-culture that invites curiosity and encourages exploration
pro-homosexual sex education
openly homosexual authority figures, such as teachers (4% of Kinsey's and 4% of FRI's gays reported that their first homosexual experience was with a teacher)
societal and legal toleration of homosexual acts
depictions of homosexuality as normal and/or desirable behavior
http://www.familyresearchinst.org/fri_edupamphlet1.html

This is the link you can read some more info there. i myself is a lesbian and i think it is because i like it the way I'm. And this is my first relationship for 4years 5months. i've never been hurt emotionally or physically by any guy/man/ahpek. unlike some of the posters above who think this is a abnormality, you can stay in your own deluded world or opt to wake up and accept the reality of evolution. because things are different from the majority doesn't mean that they should be rectified. at least we help to keep the population in control haha. I feel.... a girl understands another girl better than a guy. i rather be with some one who i can understand well. but thats just me. i belive a few 100 years back women were supposed to sit @ home and serve the hubby. those who didn't do that were considered abnormalities of the society and most of them got punished in several ways. refer to some history books. but its not the case today. today many may see homosexuality as a abnormality but things might change in a few years. who knows?

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