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Old 30th August 2013, 08:42 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Should children be caned?

Should children be caned?

Spare the rod, and spoil the child?

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Old 12th September 2013, 08:00 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Re: Should children be caned?

I believe the child should be disciplined with love instead of using the cane.

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Old 12th September 2013, 08:41 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Re: Should children be caned?

Nowadays the kids tend to be naughtier and harder to manage.And busy parents have to leave the parenting to the maids.In the past,most of the kids behaved better,but nowadays,when parents or tutors reprimand them, they will argue and can even be quite rude.Some behave like angels infront of their parents but act like devils towards their tutors and nannies when their parents are not around.So it's better to discipline the kids with firm hands.Love and rods are equally important for the upbringing of the kids.

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Old 14th September 2013, 06:31 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Re: Should children be caned?

There's carrot and the rod. I prefer the carrot to be nice loving words to discourage bad behavior but do not be afraid to bring the thunder down if they cross the line.

Because pain in appropriate amounts is a great teacher. And if there are no real dire consequences for bad behavior, there is no incentive for good behavior as well.

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Re: Should children be caned?

A child is usually rebellious when they feel things are unjustified. They also treat popular sayings like 'respect elderly' or '不听老人言,吃亏在眼前‘ nothing more than blind cultures.

If you're not patient with reasoning with them, or much worse, regards all their arguments as mere rebellion and ask them to shut up, you are definitely in for something more and more worse as time progresses.

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Re: Should children be caned?

Sure. Take utmost care and respect when reasoning with them.

But when the time for diplomacy is over, do what is necessary to bring order.

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Re: Should children be caned?

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The first and foremost problem, at least 90% of all adults failed miserably at this part: Take utmost care and respect when reasoning with them.

As one gets more and more educated, they have to tendency to be more vocal about reasonings. Undiplomatic cultures work in the past, but not now, just like how LKY's political styles work in the past, but it will never work again now.

All child are as innocent as pets, treat him/her/it well, he/she/it WILL treat you well back.

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Re: Should children be caned?

I don't believe in Canes, because all that does is brought pain to the child and if it be worse for the parents that administer the caning despite knowing that Parents meant well but the downside of caning is that you are merely teaching them to build painful relationships with you. Worse, they might resent you when they grow up.

Caning is not a solution to everything its a quick,easy and impatient method which means you are not spending time getting to know your child or why they are behaving like that. Having said that, there are also some poor parenting methods that parents should never adopt.

Like threaten the child, that you will abandon them if they don't obey or behave. Children at young age are curious to everything. And when you threaten them they will learn and pick up this to threaten others.

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Re: Should children be caned?

Sometimes, the cane is unavoidable.

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Re: Should children be caned?

Sometimes but not too much caning/punishments.

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Re: Should children be caned?

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Sometimes but not too much caning/punishments.
Yes, and often the line is gray on how much is considered too much or too little punishment.

The other question is which punishment is more appropriate?

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Re: Should children be caned?

Cane as a last resort and always let the child know that you do it as a last resort cos nothing else seems to work.

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Re: Should children be caned?

I don't believe in physical punishments. Growing up I never got into trouble (yes I was the teacher's pet and a bit of a goody two shoes) as I loved and respected my parents and didn't want to dissapoint them. They never once hit me. I feel that if my parents hit me I'd be afraid of them but I wouldn't respect them. Respect and fear are two different things and I think children should be taught the first and not the second.

I don't condone any type of violence as I feel people should communicate with each other and have patience instead. Parents also have power over children and shouldn't abuse their people or hit their children because they are frustrated with them or because they don't listen.


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Re: Should children be caned?

Children need to be taught and directed, not punished for their mistakes, otherwise they will never really learn.

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Re: Should children be caned?

I am strongly against caning children. I think that children can be disciplined through proper communication. Parents should also lead by example. I think those who hit their children also suffered the same fate when they were still young.

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Re: Should children be caned?

I think cane is not necessary. But giving them strict rules until they reach a certain age is okay. If break rules, then you punish with cane if you wish.
And most importantly, do not pampered them with gadgets, games and money. Seriously...need to control

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What i was saying earlier was that there are some children, who for some reason or another, do not require scolding or beating in order for them to live in obedience to the rules and customs of the house. However, there are other kids who are very deviant, and mild punishment will not curtail their deviant behaviour. They need to be caned. Otherwise, they'll end up embarrassing you and themselves in the near future.

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No. Jesus. I don't think subjecting your child to physical harm is good parenting. Raise them with the right values and let them make your own choices. Hurting someone to inflict your will on them is abusive.

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Re: Should children be caned?

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Should children be caned?

Spare the rod, and spoil the child?
If a child can learn and obey without being caned, then it would be evil to cane them. I believe motive is important, and if a child is being beaten, he/she must be beaten with the intention of making them into better children.

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Re: Should children be caned?

Caning is very effective imo. I have learnt the hard way.

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