Sister's reaction is affecting me...

**180308** · 29-09-2009, 10:45 PM

Cut the story short, something happened but it wasn't between me and my sister but me and my sister bf's daughter. So because of something, she got scolded by her bf as I'm her younger sister. Since that day onwards, she and his daughter wasn't allowed to contact me in any way. My sister wasn't at fault anyway.

It's been months now since I last saw and talk to her. I miss her terribly. I can't meet her or even talk to her, I don't even dare to, so I asked my oldest sister (Ros) to help me tell my second oldest sister (Ita) that I miss her.

Sis Ros told me that Sis Ita didn't showed any reaction. It seemed like she didn't care.

I know I made a mistake, because of me, she was the one who got scolded. Words can't express how I'm feeling right now but I know it's not good.

I'm online on MSN right now. I saw her online a few minutes later, and just one second, she went offline or can be appearing offline. Whatever it is, I know she's trying very hard to avoid me. Especially when now she knows I miss her so much.

I'm 16 and she's 29. I'm still young, need to understand a lot of things. So dear members, I just need to know what I have to do and what not, how can I make things better etc, if you have any ideas or comments, please kindly reply to this post.

I'm feeling so down right now. I'm just so afraid if I will lose her love or even lose her for the rest of my life because I will never find any better sister who can love, understand and treat me so well like she does. She's the best and forever will be.

**PECTOPAH** · 29-09-2009, 11:06 PM

your elder sis sounds more like 9 than 29

**180308** · 29-09-2009, 11:09 PM

Why do you say that? Hm?

**WaKao** · 30-09-2009, 10:53 AM

Childish behaviour lor thats why he say that.

**180308** · 30-09-2009, 03:50 PM

But what childish behaviour? My sister didn't behave childishly, did she?

**danielove** · 04-10-2009, 12:02 PM

Actually kinda.
She should understand that you are young and playful so you will commit mistake isnt it?
unless you did something really mean like setting his daughter on fire.

**Lemonade-** · 04-10-2009, 10:00 PM

Try to have a one to one talk with your sister and clear things out?
Maybe it is because of some misunderstanding that occured between the two of you and that's the reason why you two didn't talk to each other anymore.
Cheerup TS! Hope everything would be better for you and your sister soon! (:

**180308** · 05-10-2009, 02:34 PM

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Try to have a one to one talk with your sister and clear things out?
Maybe it is because of some misunderstanding that occured between the two of you and that's the reason why you two didn't talk to each other anymore.
Cheerup TS! Hope everything would be better for you and your sister soon! (:

I want to but that's just not possible. She's staying at her bf's place and he is always with her. He's very strict to her, and whatever he say, she must listen. He already told her not to talk or see me before hand. So yah.

**idontknow** · 05-10-2009, 04:11 PM

You have an older sister, Ros, who is allowed contact with her right? Maybe you can ask her how is Ita getting along and stuff.

It could be that her bf is exerting a lot of influence over her such that she doesn't dare make any contact with you, OR it could be that she also took to heart what you did to her bf's daughter and is avoiding you on her own accord. At any rate, without being able to contact her to clarify, it's too early to jump to conclusions.

Your current best recourse would be to ask Ros to act as the middle man until things clear up.

**Mushfiquejk** · 05-10-2009, 05:07 PM

haha..ridiculously shameful....ur sister prioritised her boyfren over her own blood....her colour will change once she breaks up with him....

**180308** · 05-10-2009, 06:32 PM

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haha..ridiculously shameful....ur sister prioritised her boyfren over her own blood....her colour will change once she breaks up with him....

True. In fact she has been avoiding the rest of the siblings too. I don't know whether is it because she chose to or her bf ask her but whatever it is, Sis Ros also said the same thing like you.

But then again, don't people always do that? Priorities their bf/gf rather than family members?

**bibilove** · 07-10-2009, 08:13 PM

But what really happen as if its a truely big thing that happened

**WaKao** · 14-10-2009, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by 180308

True. In fact she has been avoiding the rest of the siblings too. I don't know whether is it because she chose to or her bf ask her but whatever it is, Sis Ros also said the same thing like you.

But then again, don't people always do that? Priorities their bf/gf rather than family members?

Again, thats whats childish about her..

**TikeKee** · 25-10-2009, 10:25 AM

Maybe she had to act avoiding you or she will get beaten by the bf?

**Wolfyyy** · 26-10-2009, 12:42 AM

Its always a terrible mistake to jump to conclusions.

I see lots of predications made without supporting evidences eg. your sister is being childish. For a woman 29 years of age, it is highly unlikely that she'd behave as a kid given that she probably understands the complications of relationship when she is younger ( like any other girls. ) Also, girls tend to be more emotional than guys. Regardless of what, she will somehow, miss you.

My take is, go figure out more about what is truly going on with your sister. Strict boyfriend? I don't like the sound of that. He probably might be the cause of everything.

I'm not saying that I am right, but we all should be open to different possible scenarios and not narrow our judgment to something as bleak as being childish.