TIPS FOR PARENTS (Having Teenagers)

**CK 1** · 26-04-2009, 07:16 PM

Life is busy for teenagers today. With school, sport, part time jobs and a social life to maintain, many kids complain that their parents don't understand the pressures they are under. Equally, some mums and dads despair over their adolescent's relaxed attitude to life and wonder when their kids will begin to display some maturity and perspective.

How can you achieve harmony in a household with such conflicting priorities?

The answer is negotiation - with a solid dose of common sense. It's worth remembering that it is very difficult to put old heads on young shoulders.

A parent who expects that their 16-year-old can independently organise their time, prioritise their workload and execute a long -term study plan is likely to be disappointed.

Yet, such outcomes are not impossible.

Encourage your kids to have planned time with their friends - but make sure that they acknowledge your right as parents to set limits and curfews

**eatwhat** · 26-04-2009, 10:26 PM

Hi all! old nick was textbook3000....i think admin bar my nick for linking to my forum! wakakak! anyway...as a parents I do agree..

**CK 1** · 09-05-2009, 04:30 PM

too free & too tight are not good

**きむら靜か** · 20-06-2009, 05:29 PM

i actually agree that parents should negotiate with their teens (: i do with mine.
but for me, my parents gradually disallowed me to stay over at my friends' place as i grew older and they will never tell me the reason whenever i asked so that got me real pissed. i know they love me and all but please answer me.

**silverlining** · 20-06-2009, 05:55 PM

that depends on the environment your kids are hanging with. I guess...

**sereneng** · 21-07-2009, 11:42 PM

i think in this modern times, negotiation is necessary.

**shopqueen** · 25-07-2009, 11:37 PM

Negotiation is necessary but parents should always have the final word - they are only teenagers with limited experience and until the age of 21, I think parents should lay down the rules and the child has to follow. However, this can only happen if you have already set a foundation when they were young. Do not expect your teenager to respect and listen to your terms if you did not discipline them or make them follow rules when they were younger.