[uyen]

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in Halo2 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor.

This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative b**ches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete a** now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.


So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
:mellow3:

[PianoXBallet]

Hmm... perhaps that is because some girls like guys that are good but not too good?

[Steven^_^]

what an interesting article,makes me feels kinda of good somewhere somehow.

[ahmas]

interesting fact which left untold and put many others to shame.

[YOURLOVER]

haha bad girlys LOL! kidding.

[lonerlost]

You do not treasure those around you till they are lost!

[icyOrange]

hmm, my advice. dont be too nice. its not worth it. I used to be too nice but was taken for granted and everything, from then on i learnt how to be not too nice..and it works fairly ok to me..=)..

the story is inspiring tho..

[For3ver]

Now i felt im not so bad a guy,thanks!

[genzo2106]

tt was a great piece of dedication to all the nice guys out there.. :mellow3:

[finaldust]

lol aiyo nowsday i dont think apply to gals only bah ppl r taking each other for granted

[xlng8aaron]

Nice write up~ A Toast to all The Nice Guys :rock:

Thanks uyen for sharing as well! :mellow3:

[astrea]

ha... not all girls are like that eh... and i have seen guys do exactly the same things... doing this to the nice female friends...

i guess its just human nature to desire what u cannot have

[restless]

Originally Posted by astrea

ha... not all girls are like that eh... and i have seen guys do exactly the same things... doing this to the nice female friends...

i guess its just human nature to desire what u cannot have

thats so true. when its study period, u'll wish for holiday. when holiday comes, you wish for school to start. :speechless:

when girls date a jerk, she wish for a nice guy. when she dates a nice guy, she thinks that jerk was better. :speechless:

[ashfire]

can i sum that up...
"Life is just full of irony"

[uyen]

Originally Posted by ashfire

can i sum that up...
"Life is just full of irony"

Well put :mellow3:

[Kuroii]

true.. >.< juz so happen my brother is one of this nice guy..
but in the long run, he'll b with someone really great to know this fact n that truly love him.. ^^

[HatakeKakashi]

wa i suddenly saw the whole conlum is your posting lol

[enigmasam]

Its a wonder how this article made my heart cringe....

[Hutriel]

There was this once, a girl I really liked said the following sentence to me, tearfully.

" I like you, but you are too nice to be my boyfriend and I don't deserve you. I just want to be friends so that we can still be good friends forever."

Well now, we are not friends anymore. No exchange messages to see if we are getting on well in life. Why? I was too nice. Tried to help her solve every problem, tried to protect her from harm's way but she wanted to get hurt. Then I realized that the saying that all women love bad men is true.

The word "forever" is nothing more than a lie. It doesn't exist.

This is a nice thread. ^^

[danielove]

nice thread.
may all the great guys find their right one. =D