had to worry my guy getting into fights

**HIPPO93** · 01-05-2009, 08:36 AM

really don't know what guys are thinking.... a bit then want to fight...

is not like something that poke their ego right......

so

there is one day when me and my guy was walking along a road, then there are a bunch of boys (shorts pants) either sec 1 or sec 2 definetely not primary school. they are blocking the road so my guy said excuse me in a bit harsh tone.

so one guy in the bunch of boys shouted a vulgarity and we can hear it and my guy just point middle finger and walk off

then those bunch of immauture little brats keep following us as if they very big and scary

then keep shouting vulgarities.

i knew my guy will get fed up and shout back so i try all my might to shout to him to just continue walking to try to distract him from the vulgarities behind.

but of course he still can hear.....

he turned and shout back at the boys until one of the boy said something about fighting and my guy just ask him come over.

really scary!

a bunch of boys and my guy alone?

he should think of me being there.....im going to block any boy from hurting him, i do not mind getting hurt.

so i knew i had to come in to stop this

i turn to the bunch of boys and walk to them and keep shouting at them to go away!

i didnt scold them because my guy is also in fault for pointing middle finger

so i just keep asking them to go away, it is stupid to cause so much trouble for such an insignificant problem

but the boy who requested the fight continue to stand in front of me( do not dare to come any nearer)

i just keep shouting and the other boys in the group already going to walk off

if the boy really want to fight he wouldnt hesitate to come over.

but i was just scared that my guy will chiong to the boy by that time i cannot stop them

Then, i just keep on shouting them to go away until my guy pull me away ( as if look im the one going to hit the boy

i really scared that my guy will meet those boys again when im not there

and my guy scolded me for interferring this.

i replied him said " if i do not care about you i will not interfere this"

because he will get hurt if he fight with the boy! how would i not care!?

is it normal for guys to easily get into fights? i do not think so, if not everyday people fighting already

and my guy is ridiculous just walk away la those are some immature brats why do he care?

he care means he is also immature enough to take their comments seriously.....

he already more than 16 years old and present himself very maturally really don't know why in this situation(referring to being shouted at vulgarities and someone irritating him) he become immature.

honggan · 01-05-2009, 08:44 AM

if the little boi reli say come fite. if reli bo bian ur guy 1 punch i think the little kid also K.O

**HIPPO93** · 01-05-2009, 08:48 AM

ya the boy will KO for sure but the boy have a group of friend behind around 3-5 people

**Kisuke** · 01-05-2009, 08:53 AM

Your guy is trying to act hero ba, many guys do that, especially when their
gfs around .. they feel a need to show that they are not afraid to get in a fight if challenge.
You've done the correct thing for stopping a fight that may turn nasty ..
many such 'staring incidence' often resulted in violent assault .. even death.
Then again.. you've also risked yourself getting hurt in the process..
I just wish there's a better way to settle this matter, maybe other forummer can offer solution?

**lokey** · 01-05-2009, 08:53 AM

Avoid them. These boys are hooligans only. Pity them a bit.

Some guy cannot take comments and would become very violent, all of sudden.

Suggest he got to take martial arts, to learn self-defence, discipline, patient and fitness.

**diesopain** · 01-05-2009, 09:25 AM

ur guy pick on a bunch of small boys over sum vulgarites -.-
plus they are lower sec boys only and ur guy is 16 years old.wah piang what try to act like hero they are not even a threat you should not interfere at all. you should just walk away your guy confirm chase after you once he see you walk far far away.if you end up getting hurt ur guy confirm fight with them...and i think you scold your guy for picking on small boys...

**Asentua** · 01-05-2009, 09:27 AM

Perhaps you should ask him why would he react that way in that situation and what made him react that way.

You can always ask other people why, but what others say does not necessarily fit into his reaction.

Some of the obvious reasons are already mentioned by others, some you already know for yourself. I think perhaps it is his intolerance to today's particular behavior of youths and having that feeling deep down that they should be taught a lesson.

I myself personally at some occasions do feel that way. Even though I would not succumb to those kind of taunts. It's more laughable to me.

Sometimes, it is something in his past that causes him to react that way, maybe he was bullied before and felt helpless at that time. And reacting like this in such circumstances could actually be his way of releasing the sense of oppression.

What I'm saying is try to talk to him and find out more. Ask him nicely, make sure he knows you're not making him feel but but that you are trying to understand him better.

kdwdybswy · 01-05-2009, 09:57 AM

Sorry but there are times woman should not stand up like in your case. I wouldn't really want to fight over such minor problem but if in this case if I were your guy I will be very pissed and just want to walk away but if my gf stood up infront it will seem like oh I'm the sissy here I need my girl to protect me instead.

It depends on how individual look at things I don't want my gf to be crying when she got hit by them when trying to protect me, I can protect myself and her so don't try to be the hero in such case.

How injured can he get? Come on, all this young punk wouldn't be carrying parang or weapons even if they do they won't have the guts to stab. The most it's just bruises.

cute wormz · 01-05-2009, 10:00 AM

lol...i hate kids tat act big...the moment they gt beat up..they go home crying for their parents and it becomes your guys fault when it isnt...

stupid bunch of kids...if really 3-5 kids against a grown up..theres no chances they can win..

**Utataki** · 01-05-2009, 10:01 AM

Guys seem to have a tendency of reacting more impulsively upon the phrase "want to fight ar", as... i noticed.

**junxron** · 01-05-2009, 10:06 AM

its not a matter of mature or not bahz.. and like got pissed off?

Point middle finger only ma.. y make such a big fuss over it??

LOL... when u grow older, pointing middle finger is like nth le.. yea... its become my "culture" as well...
It shows he is confident of fighting the guys off? LOL...

Weztimonial · 01-05-2009, 10:09 AM

kids are just kids anyway

**jewlreya** · 01-05-2009, 10:32 AM

I don't know what to say but this kind of minor cases also want to fight, a bit childish to me. It's just like a normal staring incident to me. Your bf doesn't need to bring himself down to the group of boys' level which appeared ah beng to me. So just trying talking him out. I think communication is very important in a relationship.

HEERO · 01-05-2009, 10:36 AM

hahas .. 16 still haven't grow up. it's okay, time will change everyone so don't worry.

**HIPPO93** · 01-05-2009, 10:49 AM

yea my bf is in the wrong so do the boys i did scolded him but he was not very happy about it

and i do not want my bf to get bruises! i will cry

but the situation was very scary i am not that kind of person who dare to voice out my opinions anywhere and time i like

so i was shivering after shouting at those boys i never dare to go against those kind of hooligans

but however if i do not stop them from shouting at each other, both sides get more angry thats why i shouted to the boys to go away. to stop them from getting more angry

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Sorry but there are times woman should not stand up like in your case. I wouldn't really want to fight over such minor problem but if in this case if I were your guy I will be very pissed and just want to walk away but if my gf stood up infront it will seem like oh I'm the sissy here I need my girl to protect me instead.

It depends on how individual look at things I don't want my gf to be crying when she got hit by them when trying to protect me, I can protect myself and her so don't try to be the hero in such case.

How injured can he get? Come on, all this young punk wouldn't be carrying parang or weapons even if they do they won't have the guts to stab. The most it's just bruises.

i wished my bf will walk away but is my bf dun want to walk away he asked the boy to come over after the boy said " want to fight ar!" that is when i start to interfere and walk to the boys and shout them to go away

i think that he is angry with me for interferring is like what you said he felt being protected by a girl but really had to interfere, if not either my guy pounce on the boy or the boy come pounce on my guy. i do not want to risk my guy from getting hurt i heartbreak like mad.

in this kind of situation even its my friends i will also interfere because i do want my loved ones to get hurt

**burntheplanes** · 01-05-2009, 11:48 AM

i tio so many times. also. i just aplogise lo even if i did nothing and they wanted trouble and started something. i just either ignore and way away and then say sorry if they die die wan call me back. then bo tai zhi. Ai ya Sometimes u say sorry not in the wrong also dosent matter one. dunno why guy like to ego about disrespect lol. i dun care one. hahahha disrespect nia. say whatever also u wont die. lol takes tolerance and maturity to walk away. some would call it the lesser road though.

**cherie_1992** · 01-05-2009, 11:57 AM

Is like this de lah so long when girlfriend around
must let her know you got protected in any situation by him xD
those boys in group one is nothing and find problem to disturb your
tried to look away from them if not more trouble might come

**departedsoul** · 01-05-2009, 12:04 PM

don't think it's healthy to be doing this....

**mystery88** · 01-05-2009, 12:09 PM

perhaps he is more easily angry...

ask him to always think upon acting or speaking.
it is realy very very important

**HIPPO93** · 01-05-2009, 12:51 PM

his reactions to this situation really shock me because he always very calm even i made him angry for a lot of things he can bear it for months and months. he is not that kind ah beng want to find trouble anyhow or to show off by scaring people. he is very mature but idk why to this situation suddenly become childish probably he had a bad day

but i do not dare to talk to him about this matter anymore, he will get angry again.

hope such situations will not happen again

and thank you all for your opinions and suggestions